Taking a compliment is so hard for most women. Why is that? If you’re like me, giving a compliment is incredibly easy (and fun!), but accepting kind words about yourself is hard. It’s an interesting subject to think about, so I’ve teamed up with Kopari this month to not only talk about and review some of their incredible products, but also to talk about COMPLIMENTS!
When working on this campaign, I did a lot of thinking about both giving and receiving compliments. I know compliments make me feel great when I get them, so one thing I’m going to do is make a conscious effort to give more compliments. I absolutely love to hand out compliments and build people up (especially other women), so I’m going to be more intentional about doing so!
Now, when I give a compliment, I love hearing a genuine “Thank You!” from the recipient. But for some reason, a simple “Thank You!” is often hard for me to say after receiving a compliment myself. I always try to make a silly joke. Like last week when a good friend told me “Your hair looks really good today!”, I responded with a self-deprecating “Well, that’s what happens when you wash it!”. I mean, it’s true and all, but I’m sure a simple thank you would have been appreciated much more.
I really started thinking about my words and behaviors when I’m on the receiving end of a compliment, and I realized I wasn’t doing a great job accepting compliments. I’ve decided to make a shift, and I’m going to start accepting a compliment graciously. I feel like there is incredible power in that! I’m going to accept compliments confidently, with a smile on my face, and I’m going to make a point to let the person know that I appreciate their words.
I remember that day I got a compliment on my hair, I had actually spent extra time round brushing it to try to get out all of the little bumps and kinks. It was smoother (and I even felt like it looked healthier)! So, in response to a friend noticing that my hair looked extra good, I should have said, “Thank you so much! I spent extra time on it today, and I’m thrilled that you noticed.” I would have felt good and SHE would have felt good for making me feel good. Come on, ladies! THAT IS POWERFUL!
Now, let’s talk about some of Kopari’s compliment inducing products! Are you familiar with Kopari? Every single one of their products starts with 100% ORGANIC coconut oil, which is SO COOL! For a long time people have known that what they put IN their bodies is important, but now people are realizing that what they put ON their bodies is important too. All of Kopari’s products are made as natural as possible, with the safest ingredients (no sulfates, no silicones, no parabens, no GMOs, and no toxins). Click HERE to read about Kopari in a nutshell. And for those of you that want to be 100% informed about what you are putting on your body, there’s a full ingredient list on the website on each product page.
Yes, this post is sponsored, but I hope my genuine excitement about and love for these products shines through! Here’s my full Kopari review.
coconut body milk / coconut body glow / coconut crush scrub / pajamas (I sized up to a medium for a relaxed fit.)
Coconut Deodorant
I’d been hearing about Kopari all over blog land for several months, so about 2 months ago, I decided to try the deodorant for myself. I first talked about it last month on my $25 and UNDER post.
So what’s special about the deodorant? No Aluminum. No Baking Soda. No Parabens. No Silicone. No Phthalates.
The product smells great, it glides on smooth and isn’t sticky, and here’s the best part….IT WORKS. I love it so much, and I’ve already told tons of friends and family about it. Many of them are now on the Kopari train with me, and my friends with daughters are buying it for them as well. I love the idea of starting out the younger generation on healthier products.
The deodorant was definitely a gateway product for me. Ha! It not only made me a believer in the brand, it also made me excited to try other products from their line! They have an awesome skincare line (splash, spritz, hydrate, gloss and get fresh-faced in 4 simple steps), but since I already have a skincare regimen that I’m loyal to, it was their body care products and personal care products that sparked my interest. I hopped online, did some browsing, and ordered a bevy of products.
Body Care Dream Team Kit
I ordered the Body Care Dream Team Kit (which contains the scrub and the milk seen below) with my heels in mind. Listen. For years my heels have not been worthy of a compliment. They’ve been dry, cracked, and let’s be real here….ugly. The kit comes with both a coconut crush scrub and a coconut body milk, AND IT HEALED MY HEELS! For the last month or so I’ve been using it 3 times a week. I scrub my heels with the coconut crush scrub, I then go to town with one of those heel files that you can pick up at a drugstore, and then I moisturize them with the coconut body milk. I do this late at night and then throw on a pair of socks to keep the moisture locked in through the night.
coconut melt /BODY CARY DREAM TEAM KIT (coconut crush scrub and coconut body milk)
I use this power duo on my elbows too! The scrub is made of brown sugar and contains bits of Tahitian coconut shell to buff the dry stuff right off your body! Exfoliating is so important for healthy and glowing skin, and this product really does the trick. I use it primarily on my heels and my elbows, but you can use it anywhere you have dry skin.
That reminds me, I use it all over before I get a spray tan or use self tanner because exfoliating creates an even palette before the tanning product is applied. This scrub actually received Allure Magazine’s Top Product seal of approval. It truly is awesome.
After the scrub, I use the coconut body milk to quickly moisturize my skin and leave it feeling silky smooth. It’s not greasy at all and my skin just drinks it up. I use this all over my body to keep my skin nourished and smelling lovely because I’m absolutely obsessed with the light coconut scent.
Organic Coconut Melt
The coconut melt is a serious multi-tasker. You can use it as a hair mask, body moisturizer, make up remover, dry shave oil, bath boost, under eye cream, baby butter, and belly balm! I mean, WOW! So far, I’ve only used it as a body moisturizer, make up remover, and shave oil…BUT YOU NEED TO KNOW THAT I TRULY LOVE IT. The smell is amazing and it feels so luxurious.
Click HERE and scroll down to read “This is How You Melt” to learn about how you can use it all of the ways listed above. Seriously, go read about it. You can even watch a video!
Coconut Body Glow
And check out this Coconut Body Glow. It’s a tinted moisturizer with a bit of sheen.
In the picture below I’m just starting to rub it in because I wanted you to see the color and shimmer in the product. Once rubbed in, the shimmer is very subtle and just gives skin a beautiful glow. Click HERE to read more about it.
Coco Oil Pullers
Another product that I’m super excited about are these Coconut Oil Pullers. This 14 day set contains 3 different flavors (I love all 3!), and you swish these delicious oils around in your mouth for 5-15 minutes. Benefits include whiter teeth, healthier gums, and fresher breath. Oral health is so important to overall health, and I love the positive results that these products are giving me. I thought I was going to be annoyed having to swish this product in my mouth for 5-15 minutes, but I had no idea how much more fresh my mouth would feel, and I actually really look forward to it!
Swish, Swish, Swish.
And when you’re done, your mouth will feel incredibly fresh, and your lips will be amazingly soft. Click HERE for the 14 day set.
Coconut Lip Glossy
The last product that I’m highlighting today is the coconut gloss. I ordered the 3 pack seen below (that seems to be sold out at the moment), and I think all of the colors are great. Although the set is not currently available, you can buy individual colors HERE. The blend of coconut oil, vitamin E and shea butter will nourish your lips…
… and I love the beautiful colors!
They look great over lipsticks, but I also really love the sheer color they provide when worn on their own. The one thing I thought my set lacked was a clear gloss, but I see that there is one available! I wanted to be able to apply a gloss at night without worrying about it rubbing off on anything, so I’ll be grabbing the clear one for sure.
Kopari Review Recap
I hope you can feel my genuine excitement for these products!!! And they have me all sorts of ready to receive a compliment! I have no doubt that somebody will soon compliment me on my dewy and nourished skin (with just the right amount of shimmer!), my white teeth, or the beautiful color on my lips. To see a video that Kopari put together about learning how to accept a compliment, click HERE!
Before you go, I would love for everybody to sound off in the comments! In fact, I want to get a bit of a dialogue going about this, so please leave a comment that has something to do with a compliment. Examples of talking points include: the best compliment you’ve ever received, the best compliment you’ve ever given, how you personally take a compliment, or anything else you want to talk about regarding compliments! I’ll choose a random comment from the winners, and I’ll treat you to my favorite Kopari products! You’ll get a deodorant, a body care dream team kit, a coconut glow, and a set of oil pullers.
If you already use and love Kopari products, feel free to leave a comment about your favorite product(s) as well!
Thank you to Kopari for sponsoring this post, and I hope y’all know that I think you are the best readers ever! (Just say “thank you”.)
These are the products featured in the post, just click on what you are interested in:
They also have these awesome curated sets! They include some crowd favorites, and you will be getting them for a reduced price!
Y’all have a great day, and make it a goal to give at least 3 compliments!
P.S. Fourth of July outfit ideas and cognac sandals on sale!
Jamie Lobdell says
I never realized it, but I think I am probably equally as bad at receiving compliments and now plan to make more of an effort when accepting one! Thanks for bringing this to my attention. Would love to try some of their products! Thank you for giving me an awesome blog to follow 🙂
Cheri says
As women I think we are so critical of ourselves that it is hard to accept a compliment and like you I always gave an excuse or a reason instead of a simple “Thank You.” My MIL kept telling me that all I needed to say was, “Thank You” and once I said it the first time it became easier (once in awhile I slip…oops). The best compliment(s) I have gotten are actually two: I was carded in my 40’s (I am 62) and you look so young to be having children in their 30’s. I’ll take it. I like to compliment people as much as I can and when I do I truly mean what I say. Mama always said, “If you can’t say something nice don’t say anything at all,” but when I know someone has worked hard at something (like losing weight) and I can see progress I want to let them know. Compliments are good motivators and a confidence boost.
Stacy says
I think it’s hard to accept compliments about yourself because you (1) see all your flaws, (2) think the compliment is insincere or (3) don’t want to appear self-centered. At least, those are MY issues.
I do, however, LOVE complimenting strangers on their hair, outfits, etc when I’m out. That is THE BEST! ?
Traci Z says
Great post, lovely lady!
Happy Monday, everyone. 🙂
Eileen says
I have a hard time accepting compliments, too. My response is generally self deprecating and funny. Thanks for the post; I’m going to try and work on that. I love to compliment others about anything and everything, but I need to be better about receiving them. The sweetest compliments I get are from people close to me who compliment my personality or characteristics of who they see me to be – because it’s not how I see myself. And I need to just say “thank you” to them instead of minimizing what they just said.
Jess Murray says
I love that you wrote about this topic! I give compliments, but not nearly enough as I would like! I also am not very graceful with receiving compliments. It’s super awkward for me, I suppose I don’t really like the attention. Thank you for bringing this to my awareness I will definitely be focusing on this in the days and weeks to come.
Julie says
Sheaffer, I just wanted to thank you for bringing this compliment topic up. I am so guilty of not receiving a compliment well, even from my husband (in fact, in some ways I may be worse with him!) and I’m really going to make an effort to just say thank you!
Incidentally, I’ve felt so much more confident in my presentation since I started following your blog and buying some of the pieces you recommend. So many times I would think about the negative comments other women would make about my clothes, messy hair, whatever, and it would make me feel less confident…but now I’ve gotten so many compliments (and I’ve aged a bit so I care less) that I feel better about myself! I also know that sometimes, haters are just gonna hate. So a great big thank you to you for giving us this gift and helping me make that shift.
Sheaffer says
Awwwwwwwwww! Thank you, Julie! I’m thrilled to hear that my suggestions have helped you to feel more confident! xoxo, Sheaffer 😉
Diane says
My husband reminds me how bad I am at receiving compliments, especially from him. It’s so awkward. I’m trying to just stop at thanks, it’s hard!
Stephanie Jennings says
I love to give compliments. I made a pointed effort to always compliment children, not just mine, but their classmates, friends, etc. With all the bullying these days, hopefully it will cheer someone up. I agree with you though, I am terrible at receiving compliments. I tend to make a joke about myself also. Here’s to doing better!!!!
Kristin says
The best compliment I’ve ever received is when someone tells me I am a good mom. It makes my heart smile! I also love giving people compliments, especially strangers. I know it makes my day and can turn it completely around when someone says something nice to me out of nowhere, so I try to do the same with genuine compliments to strangers. A great way to boost each other’s self-esteem!
Lori L says
I definitely fall under the still learning how to take a compliment category… the struggle is real.
Lisa Thoreson says
Ahhh…..you are so right! My focus will be on receiving more gracefully. I have tried to teach my daughters, but boy….could I be better at this. It does feel so powerful to give a sincere compliment to a friend or stranger, and I try to do this on a regular basis. Thanks for the friendly reminder! And I can’t wait to check out Kopari’s products. By the way, your hair looks spectacular in your pics 😉
Sheaffer says
Thank you, Lisa! 🙂
Whitney says
I went through a very difficult divorce and learned when I began dating again how horrible I was at accepting compliments. The first relationship I was in again helped me to be more open to compliments like “you’re pretty/beautiful”, etc. He would not accept me brushing compliments off. He knew I needed to learn to love myself. While that relationship didn’t last, I was grateful for what I learned. Thank you for introducing these products to me! I can’t wait to shop. ?
Sheaffer says
Oooooh! This is good, Whitney!!!!
Melody says
I definitely appreciate when someone accepts a compliment I give because I’m pretty shy, so it makes me feel a little insecure about what I’d said otherwise. However, I didn’t realize until now that I don’t always do that myself! I’ll be more purposeful about my responses to compliments now. Thanks for the thoughtful post and giveaway!
Kylen says
The best compliment I’ve received was last week when my 4 yr old Grandson told me I was his best friend. My heart soared.
Love your post.
Kelli Harren says
This is something I struggle with too! I immediately want to tear myself down after a compliment! I have tried to remember that the Lord stirred that compliment in their hearts and I should give His vessel a genuine THANK YOU!
Heather O says
Thank you for sharing! I too have trouble accepting compliments but have been working on it. Within the last year or so I’ve finally gotten more comfortable complimenting others! It always makes my day when someone compliments me (and I never find it weird etc) so I figured why can’t I do the same!? It’s so much fun to actually tell the woman ahead of you in line how much you love her dress / bag / insert comment here!
Laura says
This is a great lesson for me. I am terrible at receiving a compliment and almost never give one. I can do better; and, for the sake of my two daughters who are learning from me, I WILL DO BETTER.
Daniele says
I think the best compliment you can give is a recommendation to a product or business. The Kopari products look awesome. I love connecting to new items and passing the recommendations for things that I love onward. The best compliment I’ve received is probably a simple one, “you are beautiful.” Feel free to take that one, Sheaffer, and to pass it on! ❤️
Barbara Parnell says
Honestly ,Im not the best at receiving compliments, I tend to be shy in that respect and blush! LOL..however, I love to give them! I think that by simply saying something kind to someone about their appearance, attitude or something theyve accomplished can make a tremendous difference in their day! All it takes is a little kindness to potentially turn someone’s difficult day into a great one, so keep complimenting people!!
Tracy Abraham says
I do the same thing you do as brush it off with humor. “I just washed my hair today. That must be it.” It is hard to take compliments but since Joy is my word for 2018, I am going to work on this. What better way to be joyful than to accept compliments joyfully! Thanks for the reminder! Love your blog. I read it everyday and have bought quite a few recommendations from you including my skincare!
Laura says
My default is a self-deprecating comment too. Good reminder to work on this!!
Kathleen Lewis says
It’s definitely hard for me to accept a compliment, especially when you aren’t happy about how you presently look. Recent weight gain due to a medication doesn’t help. I need to learn to love myself (fat and all) and really believe it when someone says “you look nice today”. After all, beauty isn’t just on the outside. Thanks, Sheaffer, for your blog and your words of encouragement.
Alison says
I can definitely relate. I’m horrible at receiving compliments. I need to learn to say Thank You. Thank you for always giving positive posts. I always enjoy reading! I’ve never used these products but would love to try them. ☺️
Vanessa says
I recently purchased a travel kit of Kopari and I’m loving it! I’m a healthcare provider and I’m always giving my patient’s compliments – I think it brightens their day and makes our appointment go on a much happier note! The women just love it when I walk in and start off with something on a positive note. I learned to do this a long time ago, after someone told me something so nasty about how I looked(: I decided the best way to change that was to try my best to tell people something good about themselves. That being said, it is still VERY difficult to receive a compliment. But, I am doing better. Lately, my patients have been telling me how beautiful my skin is looking! Maybe, it’s the Kopari! I would certainly love to try more of their products! By the way, you look amazing in these pictures
Amy Long says
Accepting a compliment without some sort of explanation is hard for me. Like, “thanks, I got it on sale” or “thanks, it’s from Target” why can’t I just stop at thanks. I’ve been trying to accept compliments from my husband without extra commentary that is usually negative about myself because I want my daughter to learn to love her body and how she looks. It’s always a work in progress. Interested in trying the deodorant and coconut melt. Thanks for the recommendations.
Stephanie S says
I had a neighbor who almost always would compliment you when she saw you. It was never over the top and always seemed sincere…she’d notice a haircut, a cute outfit or shoes, your makeup, etc. It helped me learn that a simple thank you was better than making a joke. It also made me see how giving compliments make others perceive you-I was always so appreciative of those compliments and grateful to her for them.
Diana S. says
Isn’t interesting that so many of us have trouble accepting compliments? I know I do. My mother was wise and lovely, and she used to say, “Don’t take away other’s joy.” They are receiving joy when they give a compliment and when you don’t accept it, you take away their joy. That really helps me put things into perspective and just say “Thank you” even though I don’t feel as if I may deserve it.
That said, thank you for such a wonderful blog! You have such a talent for what you do, and it’s really special that you are sharing your talents to help others! btw, I have so many of the pieces you have recommended and Colleen Rothschild has changed my life. 🙂
Sheaffer says
I love the quote from your mom, Diana! So wise and so true! And thank you so much for the sweet words about the blog. xoxo
Iman B says
Such a great post! I have some growing to do when it comes to receiving compliments but one thing I have found lately that really helps me is to look at the person and make eye contact. I used to kind of shy away or just say “thanks” in passing, never really letting it set in. But looking at the person really makes that person feel heard and it makes me really feel good about it and take it in. Thanks for this post, such a good one!
xx
Sheaffer says
I love this, Iman! Eye contact! So simple, yet so powerful! xoxo
Kim says
When I was in high school, WAAAAY back in the 80’s, I had a teacher who gave us an assignment to write a sincere compliment about each and every person in the class on separate strips of paper and (because he wanted us to be able to compliment anonymously if we so desired) turn them all in to him. He then distributed the compliments to the appropriate students. I am 48 years old now, and I still have those little strips of paper. Every few years, I will stumble across them, and the compliments my classmates scrawled on them so many years ago still make me feel so good!
Sheaffer says
This is amazing, Kim! What an awesome gift for a teacher to give his students!
Leah Reinemund says
Great post!!!
Where are your adorable PJs from???
Sheaffer says
Hi, Leah! Thank you! They are linked directly above the first picture! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Leslie S says
Graciously accepting compliments is something I’ve been working on. I LOVE to give genuine compliments, but often had responses like you mentioned. Thanks for the reminder and the review of the Kopari products! I’ve been curious about the deodorant. I currently use another one without aluminum, parabens, etc, but it sometimes results in white marks on my clothes. Does this one leave a residue?
Sheaffer says
Hi, Leslie! I should have mentioned this! No residue at all!!!It truly is awesome! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Allison Hoover says
I am the worst at accepting compliments! My husband will compliment me and say “you look beautiful in the ______” and I will respond with “no i don’t” or “well thats what happens when i wear real clothes”. It’s been particularly hard to accept compliments since I had my son, particularly regarding how I look. Why are we as women so hard on ourselves?! Thank you for this post! Next time I’m going to say “thank you, I’m trying to feel more like myself again and I’m glad you noticed”!
Rachel says
I’m a high school teacher and always make a point to spend time with my students on this topic. I love getting them to think – not just about the benefits of giving/receiving a compliment – but also about WHY we find it so difficult. But you know the expression…those who can DO, those who can’t TEACH? Yeah, I’ve never liked that expression. But if I’m honest with myself, this post today has woken me up to how much I could stand to take my own advice at home. My husband has always been so gracious with his compliments. I’m a lucky lady! But since having two kids in my late 30’s, I’ve leaned more on self-deprecating responses. Why?!
Sheaffer, thank you for the post. It’s got me thinking! This company has an excellent message (& some yummy looking products) and I’m glad you chose to spread the word to your loyal readers!
Kelli says
Love the topic! I’m a piano player and that means as I was growing up I had opportunity to “perform” or play and I think that taught me to just say “thank you” when receiving a compliment. I *did* put the time in to practice and get ready and show up and so when someone acknowledged that, me replying with a smile and thank you was appropriate! Now, transferring that to a looks compliment is tricky… but it still applies! 🙂
Leslie says
A few weeks ago, I told a coworker that I really liked her hair that day, and instead of a simple thank you, she went into a 10 minute monologue about her hair washing routine. It was an eye-opening example to me of how hard it is for many women to simply accept a compliment!
Kristen M says
I was just telling my husband the other day I need to be better about giving compliments to the random people I see because a sweet lady at the grocery store complimented me on my dress as I was loading my groceries and told me I looked beautiful and it made my day! I had never seen her before but she totally took that extra 10 seconds and made my day. Compliments are the best!
Mary Ruff says
The two best compliments I have received (and I receive them often) are that I remind people of my mom and that my daughters are miniature versions of myself (that makes me sound like a narcissist–but not what I mean!). I never tire of hearing that I’m like my mom–I followed her into the teaching profession and truly emulate her in every way–or that I’m raising daughters like her, too.
I haven’t used Kopari yet but have a cart loaded now because I have used straight coconut oil for years as makeup remover, body lotion, and shave gel.
Kathy L says
This is a great post and so thought-provoking! I am okay with accepting compliments from friends and strangers, but terrible about accepting compliments from my husband. It’s so strange that I can’t just smile and say thank you when he compliments the way I look. Instead of being happy that he is attracted to me and thinks I’m beautiful, I act uncomfortable and say stupid things that make it seem like I don’t believe what he’s saying! This post made me really think about this topic, and helped me to realize that I’m doing him and myself no favors by reacting that way.
I just purchased Kopari products for the first time this week! I read your previous post about the deodorant, and another blogger commented about it too, so I thought I would try it out. I love it! I was already using an aluminum free, mineral-type deodorant, but it rolls on wet, and I’m not crazy about the smell either. Kopari deodorant is a game-changer for sure. I also purchased the coconut oil pullers, but is it just me or is there a LOT of coconut oil in each of the little packages?! I tried to put all of it in my mouth and it was way too much for me! I also didn’t realize just how long 5 minutes can last while I’m swishing it around in my mouth! LOL I’m really hoping it helps to whiten my teeth over time. It does make my mouth feel fresh!
Sheaffer says
Hi, Kathy! I’ve started using the coconut pullers while I’m in the shower! It makes it so easy! And yes….take those compliments from your hubby and be thankful that he’s so sweet and attentive! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Stephanie says
Wow love this post!!! Really makes us women think about all the times we never really accepted a compliment!!!!
:((
Thank you for this challenge to us readers to start giving and accepting compliments! So here’s my number one for the day!
Thank you Sheaffer for putting your heart into this blog that so many of us LOVE!!! You are the best!!!
Ashley Luster says
In the past few months, I’ve lost close to 45 pounds, and it’s still really awkward for me to hear people compliment how I look. I feel like they’re just lying to me to make me feel better or to make me feel as though my efforts are worth it (which sounds so backwards as I type it out… because aren’t my efforts worth it?!). I’ve been working hard on smiling and thanking people and then complimenting them about something — hair, outfit, whatever — something.
I really want to try that deodorant! I’ve tried the Tom’s of Maine deodorant, and it just really didn’t work for me, so I’ve been hesitant to try out any other natural type of deodorant.
Kimberly says
I melt my Kopari coconut melt with my hairdryer right in the jar – make sure its on low power! 🙂
Julie says
I need to learn to just say thank you when receiving a compliment. It is so easy to respond negatively towards yourself but every woman deserves a compliment! Hope to win so I can try those awesome products!
Amy says
Ahh I just purchased this brand directly from Kopari after I saw your post on the deodorant and Nordstrom’s was sold out. Love at first use…this stuff is amazing. I purchased the deodorant, the body milk and the basic coconut oil and it is tropical heaven. I’m definitely going to be adding the scrub for my own tired feet and the coco oil pullers for the teeth. Thanks again for always sharing so many great outfits and products!!! Super cute jammies!!!!
Sheila says
Gosh, Sheaffer, what a great post. I love giving compliments but accepting them with grace isn’t so great. I think the best compliment I received outside of family was from a fellow Bible-study gal who told me that I made her feel important when she was talking to me. It was so sweet. I have loved reading the responses to your challenge–such wisdom and so common for all of us ladies to deflect instead of saying “Thank you.” Love those jammies and am definitely going to order the Kopari deodorant to start!
Sheaffer says
Sheila! That might be the best compliment I’ve heard yet!!! Love it so much! xoxo
Jessica says
I agree with it being hard to accept compliments, although I am working on that. But I love to give compliments every day. It brightens up my day, and usually makes the other person smile as well. I usually go out of my way to compliment pregnant women that I see because I think they are so beautiful. Most of them usually roll their eyes or mumble a thanks, but I think it’s amazing how they are growing a human and still doing all the things (work, grocery shopping, wrangling other kids). It inspires me.
Patricia Ridgley says
My best compliment was when my aunt told me I was just like my mother! I wouldn’t have liked this when I was younger but now I am so grateful that someone noticed this in me as my mom is one of the most kindest people ever.
Giving compliments is my pleasure. I rolled down my window just Saturday, at a red light, to tell someone they had a really cute car and they looked really cute driving it. It was some classic convertible from the 50’s and she had her hair tied up in a scarf….she said thanks and that the car was her “baby”!
Angela Sharbono says
I love you sharing about giving and receiving compliments! Such an easy kind,encouraging thing to do for others! It always makes my day when someone pays me a compliment. Why not do that for someone else
everyday!
Courtney A. says
I totally agree, I always have a hard time receiving compliments and tend to respond with a joke or compliment them instead of just saying thank you! Definitely need to get better about that and give out compliments more freely!
Jamie Mcgill says
I always try to give very specific compliments so the recipient knows that I’m being sincere. Also, my husband is great at giving compliments…it has taken me almost 15 years but I’ve finally learned to just say “thank you!”. It’s seems so simple but we’ve trained our brains to put ourselves down! I’m hoping we can teach this next generation to love themselves!
Darcy says
My resolution for 2018 was to be more cognizant about recognizing/thanking/complimenting someone directly or thru a note or message. My goal is 1 per day – 1 specific email, or written card, or direct compliment. It’s amazing how good complimenting someone else can make you feel! And I’m intrigued by the oil pullers – checking those out now!
April Parrish says
Great post! Our words carry so much power and especially to those on the receiving end! I will definitely be better at giving & receiving compliments after reading all these comments. A kind word costs absolutely nothing! Thanks for encouraging us ladies to be our very best, Sheaffer!?
Rebekah McCracken says
Such a great post and reminder! I am awful at receiving compliments and am way too hard on myself. I think right now I appreciate compliments from my husband the best 🙂
Jennifer Webster says
I definitely have a hard time accepting compliments and will generally respond with something self-deprecating. I need to be better about that. When I do give compliments about clothing, I really like to ask where they got it. Not only do I get ideas, but I think it’s a more genuine compliment about how much I like the piece.
Vanessa says
Thank you Sheaffer!! I’ve heard of these products, but haven’t made the plunge to purchase yet! Thanks for all the info, so I can make some purchases soon! Xoxo
Dawn says
I love all things coconut!! Can’t wait to try this stuff! On the topic of receiving compliments I am sooo awkward but giving them is the best!
Sarah Johnston says
This topic is great. As an 8th grade teacher I am trying to teach 13/14 year old girls to love themselves and to accept compliments. Sounds so much easier than it is. These girls need guidance because they are so quick to doubt and hate themselves. Each morning begins with a compliment. I have been hoping to start using this brand!
Gina Holmes says
About 15 years ago, I complimented a lady in a bible study I was in about noticing her weight loss. She replied, “Thank you, I receive that compliment!” I loved that! From that point on, that is how I receive compliments. I literally “receive” them. My coworkers started receiving their compliments too! I really try to compliment my 11 year old daughter more on her kindness, generosity, willingness to take risks, etc. instead of so much on her appearance in order to teach her that who she is far outweighs what she looks like. Of course I sprinkle in compliments about her beauty, because as a female I like to hear those things, but I try to focus on internal compliments more than external.
Renae says
One of my favorite compliments to give is to tell a mama friend what a great mom she is. We are all trying our best (and feeling so often like we’re failing or somehow messing up) at this mama, gig. I love to point out ways that I see her loving her kiddos so well.
Emily S says
I love this! I made it a point a few years ago to just say “thank you” and accept a compliment, even if I don’t believe it. It’s powerful!
I love to genuinely compliment strangers whenever I can. It’s so great to see someone else feel good!
Debbie says
Compliments are so encouraging and often so hard to receive . I have to practice responding with “thank you” rather than making excuses. Giving compliments blesses the giver and the receiver! Thank you for your thoughts about Kopari! Always helpful to hear about products from someone who is using them.
Brenda says
i am working on being more receptive to compliments – it is truly difficult for me to receive one.
Grace says
Here is a compliment that I get a lot but I don’t take it as a compliment. I am 31 years old and most of the time when people find out my age they say something to the degree of ” you don’t look 31..or..you have such a baby face..or…I thought you were much younger than that!” I know that it is a positive thing but for some reason I take it the wrong way and makes me self conscious. Going forward I am going to appreciate the compliment and embrace my “baby face” and say “thank you”
P.S.-Sheaffer, has anyone told you that you are REALLY good at what you do? I enjoy your blog so much! Your style is adorable and you seem like a down- to-earth woman. Thanks for being you and making my Monday’s more enjoyable!!
Sheaffer says
Grace! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I always hope that the blog creates happiness and joy for those who read it, so it thrills me to hear you say that. Look at me taking a compliment! 😉 xoxo, Sheaffer
Pam Zercher says
Hmmm-I have never had any luck with “other, natural” products but I’m curious about this one ?
Jennifer says
I’m trying to get better at receiving compliments. I usually either say “thank you” or “you’re sweet.” I don’t know why, but it’s so hard not to shoot them down!!
Victoria says
This is an interesting topic. It has made me stop and realize that I am terrible at accepting compliments especially if it’s about my appearance. I love to compliment strangers about their hair, clothes, etc, but only when it’s sincere.
Heather says
This might be the most lovely lead-in to a sponsored post that I’ve ever read! I love that you’re using your platform to encourage women to build each other up. We all need a kind word and a boost to our spirits now and then!
Gloria says
I used to be the same way about receiving a compliment or being fake in giving one…like just telling someone something to say in return after they complimented me, but in an effort to be as authentic as possible I try my best to just say “thank you” and receive the compliment with gratitude and not feel like I have to compliment in return. A friend said when you don’t receive what someone is giving (compliment, gift, etc.) that I am taking away their opportunity to bless me, which could be very hurtful!
Pamela says
Why is it so hard for all of us to just say “Thank you.”? This is a good message for all of us. Thank you, Sheaffer.
Tia C says
I have a hard time accepting compliments. I get a lot on my hair because it’s curly. I usually just say thank you. I try to compliment others often. It could be the bright spot in someone’s day.
Gina Holmes says
About 15 years ago, I complimented a lady in a bible study I was in about noticing her weight loss. She replied, “Thank you, I receive that compliment!” I loved that! From that point on, that is how I receive compliments. I literally “receive” them. My coworkers started receiving their compliments too! I really try to compliment my 11 year old daughter more on her kindness, generosity, willingness to take risks, etc. instead of so much on her appearance in order to teach her that who she is far outweighs what she looks like. Of course I sprinkle in compliments about her beauty, because as a female I like to hear those things, but I try to focus on internal compliments more than external.
Robin says
The best compliment I have ever received was from my brother and didn’t have to do with looks, but with my cooking. In the last few weeks of our mother’s life my brother and his wife had taken her into their home with hospice help. I took a leave from my teaching position and would stay with Mother during the day. To help out, I often would have dinner ready when my brother and s-i-l got home from work. My brother told me once during that time, that he really liked it when I cooked. When I asked why, he said ( geez I am tearing up now)…”it tastes like Mom’s cooking”. I cried all the way home that night.
I too often make self deprecating remarks when I am complimented. Thanks for your post, it will remind me to be more gracious.
Sheaffer says
Robin this is absolutely precious. What a wonderful thing you did, and what a wonderful compliment to receive. xoxo, Sheaffer
Cindy says
I get a lot of positive compliments on my wild curly fizzy hair,. I’ve come to terms with my crazy hair but it is hard to accept compliments. I’m just thankful for the nice people who take time to make me feel good!!
Lea Culp says
I think most all women struggle with the proper response to a compliment, thanks for posting about this common issue. I’ll rethink my response next time. Never heard of this product, will go over and check it out. Have a great week!
Karen says
Omg! I have an old friend who would always tell me I am bad at receiving compliments. I would work on it for a while and then see myself slipping.
Nicole says
If someone gives me a compliment, I used to try to negate it. Now I try to take a breath and just say thank you. I love giving complements so I should try to accept and appreciate them too!
Keesha says
Love this post! I think my problem in receiving compliments is that I don’t want to appear boastful about myself. A friend pointed out to me once that it is ok to accept a compliment or to be proud of yourself a little because God made you and it is really bragging on Him. I had always thought to be humble, I didn’t need to accept compliments or “toot my own horn!” I’m trying to change, but I don’t ever want to appear arrogant! ? If someone is nice enough to say something encouraging, then I should be nice enough to say thank you!
Love your blog and thanks for such a thought provoking post!
Kari Brown says
Love this! A few years ago one of my New Year’s Resolutions was to compliment others more. Not just for looks, but talents, work ethic, etc. This has truly been eye opening and in turn has helped me receive compliments without constantly deflecting them. ?
Kyla Fisher says
I would love to try these products! Sound amazing!
Peg says
I just complimented someone today and I could tell it made her feel good and it made me feel good too. Thanks for the reminder.
I would love to try the Kopari Body Glo.
Ali says
I’m sure you already know this, but the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale catalog is already online!
Sheaffer says
Hi, Ali! Yes! I’ll be talking about it a bit on Friday! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Jill M says
My favorite compliment to give someone is in regards to something like their work ethic, how joyful they seem, or how I see Christ in them. ❤
Laura says
Ok so this is not keeping with the theme- but I am desperate for help. I switched to organic deodorant about 1.5 years ago and have not found one that works wonderfully. I thought it would work and the I hit the hot summer months only to realize it’s not strong enough (I am a pediatric PT too so I am constantly raising my arms). I have tried Norwex, North Coast organics, and now Kopari. I LOVE how the Kopari goes on- I just feel like I have some odor half way through my day. Any other suggestions?
Sheaffer says
Hi, Laura! I’ve never tried other natural deodorants. Can anybody else comment with a suggestion?!?
Adana Hagel says
Looks awesome!! Love that it is organic and would love to try this product!
Missy McD says
This really peaks my interest!! I want to try the deodorant and the oil pullers!!! Thanks for the info!
Amy D says
With my job in Early Childhood Intervention, I make it a point to compliment my client mothers. They are often socially isolated, and it brightens their day to know that someone noticed their haircut, for example.
I follow Kopari on IG, but have not tried their products.
Chris T says
Gulp! I am guilty too of not receiving compliments easily. I always wonder if someone gives you a compliment if you should give one back. And then will they think I am being insincere. I don’t know how it got so complicated!
Next time I will keep it simple with a Thank you and leave it at that. Whew!
Brighid says
I recently went to a party and received a ton of compliments with the shirt I was wearing. I actually found it through you ?. I rarely get compliments on my clothes so it made me feel really confident (such a nice feeling).
Sheaffer says
Yay, Brighid! Now I’m dying to know which shirt! 🙂
Stacy says
Honestly when I am given a compliment my first instinct is to rebutte it somehow . If someone says you look nice, I’ll say thanks but I’m still trying to loose a few lbs. learning to just say thank you and realize I total am worth it 😉
Stacy Tsoukatos says
My gosh I took some time to read thru the comments and so many women had the same response as me that we don’t take compliments well. Ladies we are strong powerful women / this is an issue we can all work on to improve our self worth.
Abby H says
I definitely struggle with accepting compliments, unless they come from my kiddos – they are great for the ego? (and also great at keeping you humble??).
I have been slowly replacing my cosmetics and body products with safer options – I will definitely be checking these out! Thanks for the review!
Lindsay McGee says
The best complements to give are the sincere and genuine complement given to a child. Especially if you wait and watch when they don’t realize it…like, if you catch them showing kindness to someone that needs a little extra love!
Michelle says
I have curly hair that I have a love/hate relationship with so when I get compliments on it I try to remember that some people actually want curly hair and to just say thank you :). Keep hearing about kopari products. Thanks for the reviews!
Lisa Sanborn says
As a teacher I try to give each one of my students a compliment every day!! It’s amazing to see how they light up and it helps me establish connections with my kiddos. I especially like to compliment them when I see them being kind to others because it creates a ripple effect and they all try extra hard to show kindness, too. Of course, nothing beats when I get a compliment from a student or parent. I want to be remembered as a teacher who truly cares about all her students. Words are powerful whether positive or negative so start throwing those compliments around like confetti!! You just never know the impact a meaningful compliment can have & how it can affect someone’s day or even their whole life.
Monica Kellen says
I definitely agree that it is hard to accept a compliment gracefully. I will give it a try like you said. Keep it to a simple “thank you.” It’s a start!
Ashley Patterson says
I love receiving compliments about my positive attitude. Hearing that I’ve beightened someone’s day or made one of my patients’ hospital stay more pleasant are my favorite!
Jana says
I’ve tried the coconut melt and really like it! I would really like to try their other products soon.
Caroline Long says
I try to deflect as soon as someone gives me a compliment and try to turn it on them and compliment them. I’m going to try to rest in thebcompliment and just say thank you!
Jenny says
I’m terrible at this and I’m going to change that! Thanks, Sheaffer…I so enjoy your blog and look forward to every new post. I have been reading since the beginning. So much goodness here…great laughs, pretty clothes, fun makeup, deals to be found…I just love it. I’m a fan of your decorating style too…keep those home posts coming. ?One of my best compliments came from a coworker who told me I was the most genuine person she knew. Wow. That made me feel good…I know this is something God is still working in me. Enjoy your day?!
Sheaffer says
Jenny! Thank you so much for reading and for the kind words about the blog!!! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Amanda B says
I also have a difficult time receiving compliments and need to do better! I have an easier time giving compliments than receiving them and I need to do better. Thanks for the gentle reminder.
Amy says
Really cute pajamas. Great products.
Julie says
Awhile ago I decided to say thank you when I got a compliment…. even if I didn’t necessarily agree with it.
Narci Dreffs says
Aw!! This is so awesome! These products look amazing, and I think you are pretty fabulous as well!! 🙂
Jana Domyslawski says
You are right! We are not very good at graciously accepting compliments given to ourselves! My girls are now 13 & 15 and I am hoping to be a better example for them to GIVE compliments and to ACCEPT them graciously. Thank goodness for God’s grace to continue giving us opportunities to learn and do better! Thank you for your kind words to us all!
Jill C says
I totally agree that it is hard to accept compliments and we often shrug them off. We need to all better about accepting them and love them. Thanks so much for your fun blog and style tips!! PS – can’t wait to try the deodorant. Have a great day!!
Frances says
Thank you for this post. Judging by all the comments, this is a huge problem for us girls! I am going g to do better!
Julia K says
My favorite compliment is that I’m a good Mom. In this time of social media and Mom shaming, I think it’s so important to build each other up! Love this post!
Kelly Henderson says
Isn’t “thank you” such powerful phrase? I am also guilty of not receiving compliments well especially from close friends or family. I learned a few years ago to be more gracious about compliments; ironically, I learned this from people who were fake friends. You know the ones who dole out the praise while undermining you? Yeah, those people but I leaned from them they can’t steal my joy!
The best compliment I have ever received was from a compliment stranger. I was refilling my drink in a counter service restaurant and she told me I had the best legs she had had ever seen. It takes a LOT of courage to give a compliment like that to a complete stranger. I have never forgotten it, it made my day. I am pretty sure I said thank you. I tend to deflect more with people in my inner circle than in public. My momma raised me better! 😉
Holley Whitman says
I am terrible at accepting a compliment, but working on it 😉
Susanne N. says
I so needed this! I don’t know why it’s so hard to just say thank you and accept a compliment. I usually find some funny thing to say to show why their compliment is not valid. I’ve read somewhere before though that doing that is actually insulting them…a person compliments you and then you say something to the contrary. It’s like calling them a liar. I try to remember that when someone compliments me, but it’s so hard!
Caitlin S Schubert says
I have been acutely aware of how I receive compliments from others lately. I realized that I was deflecting compliments because the attention made me feel uncomfortable. When someone would compliment my home’s organization, for example, I would say something like “Oh gosh well usually it’s a disaster!” (which isn’t true). Now I try to say something like, “Thank you so much, I’d love to share some of my favorite organizing tips with you sometime!”. It’s often difficult for people to pay compliments to others so I want to make THEM feel great for saying something nice and making my day! Love your blog!
Heather says
I am forever the sarcastic queen so I always have a self-deprecating comment when I receive a compliment. Loved this post! Sheaffer, does the Coconut Body Glow leave color on clothes or smudge?
Sheaffer says
Hi, Heather! It doesn’t transfer to clothes! I didn’t notice any smudging! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Carrie says
Giving compliments is easy for me but receiving them is so hard….I feel like I don’t deserve them, even from my husband. I am trying to work on this daily….this post is a great reminder! Thank you!!!
Julie says
Wow it seems that I have a lot of company in this area! I’ve never been good with receiving compliments. I think it helps to be aware of it and this post really did make me think about it. I think this will always be hard for me but I am going to work on it. A simple thank you and smile really isn’t so tough to do, just have to then keep my mouth shut and not follow up with any extra commentary, haha.
These natural products really sound fabulous, all of them but definitely want to try the deodorant for sure! I’m a new reader of your blog but have really been enjoying it. You have such great style! Also enjoying the Bachelorette recaps, too funny.
Shari Webb says
I am so excited to try some of these products. Thank you so much for this blog post. Always enjoy your posts whether bachelor/ette, fashion or one such as this. So fun to read and share.
Linda Filtzkowski says
I am probably the same way with compliments!! I have never heard of these products but think I will check them out. We are always looking for new deoderants that are natural and actually work.
Jessica Carnevale says
I recently changed careers and was told that my new career choice was impressive. I went from an administration position to a corrections officer.
Melissa says
I relate to this post so much! So bad at taking a compliment, but I do love to give compliments to others. I saw an online deal for Kopari a while back, but I had never heard of them before. I’m so bummed I didn’t take advantage of the great prices! I love all things coconut, so I’ll have to give them a try.
Carrie says
i was part of my church’s annual Christmas music program this last year. After one of the performances a lady I have never met and who does not attend our church approached me. She asked if I was the one standing on the right side near the end…I confirmed it was me. She then gave me one of the best compliments I’ve ever received. She said she watched me the entire program and noticed that I always had a smile on my face even when i wasn’t singing. She said it really made an impression on her!
Out of 150+ people in the choir, she noticed me, continued to observe me and found me afterward to tell me! I was blown away. It goes to show you never know who is watching you and what an impact a simple smile can have! ?
April says
In high school I had a teacher give advice I’ve never forgotten: if someone pays you a compliment, just say, “thank you” whether you believe what they said or not. If you say, “not really” or “no I don’t” then you are insulting that person and telling them their opinion is wrong. It really put things in perspective. I don’t want to make someone else feel bad when they are trying to make me feel good.
Jen Tobin says
This is so great! I was sitting at a bar last Friday night and after making a few jokes and random small talk with the lady next to me, she said, “I’m not a lesbian or anything, but I have to tell you, you’re gorgeous!” I was so blown away and thankful. She said, “you know, women are always so hard on themselves and I just had to tell you that.” I then told her how I know exactly what she means and that I happened to be wearing a new outfit and had been kind of self conscious that day… the compliment was perfectly timed!… even after my husband, my friend, and multiple coworkers complimenting that outfit, I STILL let the gremlins creep in randomly about my body in this outfit. -silly- Anyways, hearing a complete stranger say that made my night.
I will also add, the fact that she thought she needed to tell me that she wasn’t a lesbian and hitting on me was hilarious too… what? we are so bad at compliments these days that we have to assume the person is hitting on us? hahahaha
Love your blog, Sheaffer! Especially Bachelor recaps 😉 Thanks for bringing joy to my days!
Andrea says
I try and remember to just say thank you when receiving a compliment insread of adding a disclaimer, but I always think it to myself. Today though, someone is a store told me I reminded them of Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, and I thought, you know what, who cares if she might be the only person in the world that has ever thought that, I am going to receive it and believe it!
Jodi says
I saw an older woman in target last week that had the cutest dress on. I wasn’t gonna say anything but then she ended up in line behind me so I figured it was meant to be. I told her I loved her dress and it looked amazing on her and she was so appreciative of it. I could tell it just made her day to be acknowledged in that way.
My favorite compliment that I’ve ever received was being told I had “angel hair”. I’ve always hated my hair and I very rarely, like maybe 3 times a year, wear it down. Once when I had it down I was complimented that my blond mane looked like beautiful angel hair and I swear I almost cried. I’ve never forgotten it.
LIsa Roussel says
Like so many others have already commented, I find it hard to accept compliments. For myself, I find it hard to accept a compliment that I have lovely skin when I have spent so long disliking the multitude of freckles covering it.
JenBC says
It has not always been easy for me to receive a compliment through the years. I do think many times we we forget that when someone compliments they have gone out of their way to do so. When I remember that, it makes me feel so good. Someone took their time to come say something or send a message. I think you said one word that is so key to accepting compliments…gracious. When I hear someone who accepts a compliment well, they are always gracious, humble and kind.
Stacey says
Sheaffer, accepting compliments is so hard for some of us – me included! I guess inside we all question so many things about ourselves so when we are complimented, it’s hard to really accept the kind things that are said. I have this habit of discounting what the person says, making a joke, or something like that. We really shouldn’t do that! I just turned 55 and it occurs to me that life is too short to never really fully feel great about ourselves. Giving compliments is one of my favorite things to do so accepting them shouldn’t be so hard. I’m working on it too.
Debbie says
I love to give AND receive compliments from random strangers. They are unexpected and spontaneous. They also seem to be sincere since they have no agenda.
Lindsay Tippett says
I love giving compliments! It’s such a joy to see someone’s face light up when you tell them how great they look or how cute that new top is! I didn’t even realize until reading your post, though, that I am not the greatest at receiving them. Even though it seriously makes my day and fills my heart (Words of Affirmation is my Love Language!), I will STILL try to somehow negate the compliment. I’m going to work on that! Thanks, Sheaffer, for this post!
Louisa says
I agree that it is so hard to receive compliments sometimes! I love to give compliments because I like to make people smile and feel good but I always make a joke when receiving a compliment. Thanks for this post! I ordered some of the kopari products, received them yesterday and tried the oil pullers this morning!
Rachel says
I think I’ve gotten much better at this! You never want to make the compliment-giver feel weird – you want them to walk away feeling good about themselves too! There are certain people who are just natural at this – you go up to give them a compliment, and somehow they make you walk away feeling like you were the one who received a compliment! I’d definitely like to be one of those people – not sure if I’m quite there yet, but we can all keep working on it 😉
Emily says
I absolutely love to give compliments because of the feeling I get when I receive one!! I’m not always the best at verbalizing my gratitude, but boy can a compliment from a a stranger be a total day-changer!! Thanks Sheaffer for another fabulous post!
Jenessa S. says
Just smile and say thank you! I like to find something to compliment the other person on too, if I can!
Traci says
I’ve always had trouble believing compliments when given, but becoming a Mama has made me a whole new kind of comfortable in this skin of mine. I think I respect my body more for what it has accomplished, and also, I think I’m so fulfilled by my role as mother to these three future adults that I just don’t have the time or desire to worry about the possible negative things people see in my appearance – my mama work is too important to be distracted by things that don’t matter! Now, I accept compliments, believe them, then let them go because my identity is not in my looks!
Joanna H says
The best compliment I ever received was when I was visiting my dad. He only had weeks left to live with a terminal illness, so basically it was our goodbye visit with him. I wanted to make him dinner the night before we left even though at that point his appetite was extremely small. I made tacos, knowing he really liked them. We had moved away from him and out of state a few years prior to this and during the visit I kept talking about a Mexican restaurant that I missed so much since we had moved. So, we were eating dinner and he was just eating away at those tacos and he said, “I don’t know why you are missing that restaurant with tacos like this.” It was just super sweet knowing he was probably just about gagging on those tacos since the only thing he was really eating at that point was milkshakes, but not only did he eat them, he gave me this sweet compliment that I will always remember and cherish. Thanks for the giveaway…I would LOVE to try these products. 🙂
Sheaffer says
Oh my goodness, Joanna. This is the most precious story. What a sweet dad you had. xoxo, Sheaffer
Kelly K says
Such a fun thing to think through- one of the best compliments i have received was my mom telling me that she has loved watching me grow up and become such an amazing wife and mom. One that i have given – telling my grandmother that she had been an inspiration and picture of strength, determination and sacrifice. Thanks for the opportunity!
Lauren says
As I’ve gotten older, I am less shy about giving compliments to other women, and strangers. I feel that so many people are going through silent or private battles, it can’t hurt to tell them when you see something lovely about them!
Julianne says
Wow! What a fabulous topic of conversation! I truly enjoy giving compliments and receiving them in turn. I often joke with my husband, who is an excellent chef, that he doesn’t need to be so critical of himself. Take the compliment and say thank you! Period.
I also enjoy complimenting a mother when she’s in the thick of taking care of a newborn or wrangling toddlers that she’s beautiful and doing a really great job!
I compliment my daughter every single day that she is beautiful inside and out. I tell her God created her with the fruits of the spirit!
I agree with the comment above that your blog is a treat! You are great at what you do. And you make me giggle too, especially with the Bachelor/Bachelorette posts! Keep it up sister!!
Sheaffer says
Aw! Thank you Julia!!!! I love that you think the blog is “a treat”. That makes me smile! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Emily says
Compliments are great because they are a great conversation starter. I have a LOT of boring networking meet-and-greets and they can be awkward when I do not know anyone. I always start by complementing someone (love that color dress, your shoes are so great!) to get the conversation going.
Mel H says
I always seem to minimize when I receive a compliment-I have a hard time accepting a compliment well.
Beth says
My husband always says how bad I am at taking a compliment. I never really noticed it about myself.
Chrissy says
Love seeing how children accept compliments! We should all be more like them & #ownit!
Kim Bean says
Honestly I think the best compliments I receive are about my children! If they’ve been kind, respectful or helpful. I’m like…whew!
I love your posts and you are seriously darling! Thanks for all you do!
Xoxo
Cindy says
I am also horrible at taking a compliment. Why do women do this? If someone compliments my clothes, I’ll always say oh it’s just from Target or “this is old”, rather than just saying thank you. I also love when random strangers compliment your shoes in an elevator, always makes me feel so good.
Valerie Bothell says
I would love to try the products you featured in this post!
Ginnie says
I am guilty of what you mentioned – downplaying a compliment when I receive it. I have two very little daughters and I’ve been more aware of how my self talk will affect them. Thanks for this post and challenge!
Kelli Badder says
I’ve wanted to try Kopari deodorant for a while! Can’t wait to get some.
Angela Bailey says
Just bought the deodorant!! Yay!!! Thanks for this great post!…. Angela 🙂
Ralinn says
I do minimize when receiving a compliment. I’m getting better.
I need to learn more about Kopari. The products sound amazing.
Jenny says
The best compliment I have received lately was about my 2 kiddos! I would rather hear someone compliment my kiddos character and manners than give me a compliment anyday!
Brittany Lutz says
I never miss a chance to compliment someone. Whether it’s their outfit, shoes, jewelry, purse, etc, if I like it, I’ll say it. This world is so cruel these days that the simplest compliment can go a very long way. Plus, it doesn’t hurt to find out about a new boutique or online store that I’ve never heard of before ?
Valerie says
My favorite compliments to receive are the ones where someone mentions how nice you look that day or how well organized you are and it’s the day when you think you’re a hot mess just trying to make it through the day! 🙂
Amanda says
Thank you for the great reminder to say thank you! It’s been something I’ve been working on and I can see that I am not the only one. 🙂
Pam says
I am learning to take a compliment without dismissing it as just nothing. They make me feel great but I’m not great at accepting them as earned. Baby steps Intell myself!
Ana says
Thanks for this post made me think a lot, for me is easier to give a compliment than receive one. Will need to work on that ?
Love your post and you always look amazing ?
Rebecca says
It’s amazing- the power of a simple thank you – has on both the giver and receiver of compliments!
Crystal says
I love so much that you’ve gotten a conversation going around this! Thoughts about the topic have been swirling around in my head everyday since you posted it.
My 1st thought, was that EVERYONE benefits from a compliment- we all have our comfort zones…so imagine if we were to each push our personal boundaries of comfort & go out of our way to compliment just one person a day outside of our “norm”…I’d venture to guess that darn near everyone one would encounter…Man/Woman/Child…Family/Friend/Stranger…could all use a little pick me up. Can you imagine what the world would look like w/just that 1 little change?
I get the most joy out of doing or giving for/to other people. It makes me so happy when I know that I truly impacted someone’s life in a positive way- yet, like many of your other commenters, I don’t take a compliment well. I too find it easier to self- deprecate or make a joke….anything to really “take the focus off of me”. When I truly think about it…how rude of me! I already know that I get joy when I compliment someone else- so WHY am I taking away any or all of another’s joy when I’m on the receiving end? After so much thought about the topic, this post has made me really committed to doing a better job of that!
I’ve been going through a really difficult time w/health issues & other things & it has had such an impact of myself/body image/self esteem… I have found myself feeling most comfortable just hiding away in the house…free from the pressure of having to interact w/others. But again, the more I mulled all of this over, the more to heart I took it. I haven’t been relieving myself of anything, I’ve only been making the uneasiness, etc. worse.
For this 1st time in a very long time, I decided to put all of these swirling thoughts into action.
We went on a much needed (more than I realized) date night & I began to remember not only what it let like to be human again…but, to be “me”!
But, if that wasn’t already positive enough- in a completely unexpected twist…I received the BEST compliment from a total stranger & it made me beam (on the inside & out!)
It was simple, sincere & just said in conversation- but, it meant the world to me.
I was told that I seemed so kind & had a way of making other people feel at ease…that it was a joy to talk to me….
it might not seem like a lot to some, but to me…it meant EVERYTHING! (& had changed how I am seeing a lot of things already!)
So, thank YOU so, so much for getting my mind going around all of this- it has had a positive impact on my life for sure!!!
Kate R says
This is a great reminder to accept compliments! I am also very bad at just saying thank you! I think my favorite compliment is when it has to do with someone’s kindness, attitude, work ethic, etc. – anything to build someone’s confidence!
Cathy says
I am a girls high school soccer coach and see girls deflect any type of compliment or praise all the time. I try so hard for these girls to THANK the person giving them a compliment and own it. Just because we say thank you doesn’t mean we are arrogant and think highly of ourselves. We need to build each other up more and more, and part of that means we humbly accept what others see in us.
Milissa says
I love telling moms that they’re doing a great job! Now that mine are grown, I remember how tough the early years of parenting were and like to bring a little joy to their day!
Also the Kopari sparkly lotion is AH Ma Zing!!!
Tori says
As someone who struggles with receiving complements, I am very quick to either brush it off or use some sort of self deprecating humor to combat kind words, I realized lately that many women are just like me, and now I conscious find if I receive a compliment I take it and say thank you. If someone is going out of their way, they must mean it. The kindest compliment I received was 15 years ago, someone told me that “the eyes are the window to a persons soul, but they see my heart in my smile.” I have never forgotten that and always try to smile.
Shanna Gilbert says
We all have struggles in our lives and I like to end the day thinking I made someone’s day a little brighter. It’s not anything big but I try to compliment people wherever I go. While at stores I will compliment checkers on their nails or hair or their upbeat attitude. My daughters friends that come over on their outfit or that I heard they had done something kind to someone else. To my little nieces for being big helpers to their mom while their dad was away, etc. None of these things are earth shattering, change the world kind of things but it brings smiles to people who might be at a job they hate, had just received bad news or had low self esteem. I know getting compliments makes me happy so why not do something that takes so little effort for someone else?
Ally says
I love this post! I am much better at giving compliments than I am at receiving them. I’ve gotten better over the years at just saying “Thank You.”
I think the best compliment received would have to be anything involving my children— their manners, their behavior, their big hearts. Makes me feel like I’m doing something right!
diana says
looking for your moms post and cannot find
Sheaffer says
Hi, Diana! My mom’s post for what?