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Okay, now for The Bachelorette.
Y’all.
I CAN’T EVEN.
LIKE I REALLY CAN’T EVEN.
SERIOUSLY.
LITERALLY.
I. CAN’T. EVEN.
And I’m telling you, #youcan’teven either.
Now if you remember, we ended last week with Gosling confronting Kaitlyn in her suite in Ireland.
You can see previous weeks’ recaps HERE if you
need to get caught up.
He was going to talk to her just because he was having GENERAL trouble with the whole process (meaning he did not know any specifics about Kaitlyn’s and Nick’s Big Wiggle incident).
Gosling looks straight at her and says “Are you in love with me? Yes, or no?“
I froze.
#ican’teven
I mean….WHAT IN THE WORLD COULD SHE SAY?
(And by the way, NOTE TO GOSLING, you are on a reality dating show where she is dating several other guys and she is supposed to admit her feelings for NOBODY.)
After what felt like a solid 10 minutes of silence, she responded with, “I’m falling in love with you.”
And I exhaled.
Well played Kaitlyn.
That is quite possibly the only thing she could have said in that situation.
Now, who knows if she means it or not.
So this next picture sums up how Kaitlyn feels about everything right now.
#SHEcan’teven
And I can’t be totally sure, but I’m going to go out on a limb here and say I’m even more upset about it all than she is. ALL OF THESE SHENANIGANS ARE MAKING ME NUTTY!
She says “The fact that I’ve been intimate with Nick is not where the guilt comes from with me. The guilt comes from where my relationships are with other people. And my feelings for Shawn are at this point overwhelming. I don’t want to hurt him. I don’t want to hurt anybody.“
Okay, here’s the deal.
#andjusttobeclear
#ican’teven
It’s obvious that Kaitlyn feels really really badly about how things went down.
HOWEVER…
She keeps on saying that she doesn’t feel guilty about the actual act.
And here’s my problem with that: things don’t happen in a vacuum.
She knew when she “was intimate” with Nick that all the other guys were there. And she knew that if they found out they would of course be upset.
So, I wish she would just say flat out say “I shouldn’t have done it. I was wrong.”
I think I could deal with that.
I just can’t deal with all the tears and one more announcement from Kaitlyn that she doesn’t feel bad about what happened, just about how people might feel about what happened.
Girl. Take some responsibility.
#sayitwithmeeverybody
#wecan’teven
2:1 DATE
It’s time for the 2:1 and it’s JJ and Kentucky Joe.
And although awkward (of course), it’s like the most cordial 2:1 date in the history of ever. It made me yearn for the 2:1 of yesteryear where characters like #virgininabottle and #krazyinakardikelsey got dropped off in a barren dessert.
Now THAT was good t.v.
(You know what would have been REALLY good t.v.? JJ and Clint on a 2:1.
Producers really should consult with me about this kind of stuff.)
Instead, it’s this love triangle.
Here’s what Kaitlyn said about JJ: “He’s attractive, funny, and edgy.
He’s got all the qualities I look for.“
And I’m all, “Ummmmmmmm. JJ? We’re talking about JJ?”
A real treat? That’s a weird thing to say, right?
So they get on a boat and hop on over to an island.
They immediately sit down on a picnic blanket, and JJ wastes NO TIME on a toast.
He says “Kaitlyn, I want you to know that I”m really falling for you, and uh cheers to that.”
That’s a direct quote by the way.
We hear the clink of the glasses.
And then silence.
Lonnnnnnnnnnnnggggggggggggggg silence.
It was deafening.
#ican’teven
Joe takes her off and blows her away with the fact that he finally opens up.
He puts all his feelings on the table and she is all of a sudden a fan of ol’ Kentucky Joe.
JJ takes her away and tells the camera that he wants to build the relationship on rock, not sand.
He sits her down, prepares her for the fact that this is probably the hardest thing he has ever told anybody, and he looks at her and says that he cheated on his wife.
He seems real and vulnerable and appropriately ashamed.
Which I appreciate.
He says he made a dumb mistake that destroyed his life.
And for the first time ever, I like JJ.
I like JJ?
#iliterallycan’teven
I like that he is OWNING a mistake and taking full responsibility for it.
And I promise I’m in no way comparing what Kaitlyn did with JJ cheating on his wife……it’s COMPLETELY 1000% DIFFERENT….
but I am comparing how they are owning up to their mistakes.
Of course we all make mistakes, and sometimes we make BIG ones, but I think the way people respond to their own mistakes often says more about the person than the actual mistake.
And who knows how he handled it all when he actually made the mistake (he has after all had 3 years to become apologetic), but he handled it well last night and seemed to take full ownership,
(Although, I must say. If I was JJ’s wife who had been cheated on, I would have a problem with him getting sympathy from America.)
She sends JJ home and then tells Joe she’s not ready to give him the rose yet and she wants to spend more time with him.
So, they spend more time together, and then she gives him the rose.
Joe returns to the hotel with the other guys after the 2:1 and says “We had some 1:1 time together and I’m falling in love with the girl.”
Gosling couldn’t take it.
He immediately got up and just walked out of the room.
He says he is exhausted and he isn’t able to eat.
Okay.
Now it’s getting serious.
He could start losing muscle mass.
Gosling! Keep up your strength!
You need PROTEIN!
Have a chicken breast! An omelette! A handful of pistachios! Greek Yogurt!
Something! ANYTHING!
Gosling is continuing to have serious issues with the whole process.
During another 1:1 interview, he again references time he spent off camera with Kaitlyn in San Antonio where she apparently told him “it’s you“.
By the way, Kaitlyn does confirm this fact, but she also says she basically wishes
she had never said it.
And is it just me, or do Kaitlyn AND ABC both seem to be making a bigger deal of the fact that she told Gosling that he was “the one” more than then fact that she did the BIG OL’ WIGGLE with Nick?
#ican’teven
Kaitlyn is in the middle of doing a 1:1 interview when one of the producers gets word that Gosling is on his way over to talk to Kaitlyn.
Cut to a shot of Gosling heading to Kaitlyn’s room.
#dejavu
#didn’tthisjusthappen
#ican’teven
And when they tell her that he is on his way, you can tell that she wants to puke.
She again assumes that Gosling knows about Nick and that he is coming over to talk to her about it.
But he’s not.
He’s just a total wreck.
And he’s being sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo needy.
And we all know that “needy” is not an attractive color on anybody.
But especially on a guy that’s ON THE BACHELORETTE FOR CRYING OUT LOUD.
So, we are now a full 45 minutes into the show, and we are just now getting to the rose ceremony.
You see what I mean?
#iSERIOUSLYcan’teven
ROSE CEREMONY
#finally
Kaitlyn opens up the rose ceremony by saying she is emotional and confused, and that her feelings are all over the map. She admits to not being perfect and that she makes mistakes and that she knows her heart is still open and she’s hopeful that she will find what she wants.
And this sends EVERYBODY into a tail spin.
Every single guy is like “Is it me? Did she make the mistake with me? What does she mean her heart is still open? I thought she loved ME!”
#sayitwithmenow
#ican’teven
Ben Z. takes her away, and it seems to goes well.
Peter Brady takes her away, and he tells her that he knows something has happened between her and Gosling. He doesn’t know what exactly, but he knows something.
Um, Okay.
But really, all the guys are freaking.
And I’m wondering if Gosling is having 2nd thoughts about his wardrobe choice.
Nick and Kaitlyn get some alone time together, and Nick is kind of a basket case.
He tears up, seems genuine, and I find myself not hating him!
Weird.
Kaitlyn tells the camera that she hopes Nick is being respectful to all the other guys.
KAITLYN! UGH! LISTEN TO YOURSELF WOMAN!
You are still not taking any responsibility for the act, but you are shaming Nick for the idea that he might tell somebody about the act.
#ICAN’T EVEN
And then…..it happens…..Kaitlyn FINALLY admits that she “regrets” something.
But she’s admitting that she regrets reassuring Gosling.
WHAT?
That’s what you regret?
#iforrealzcan’teven
She goes on and on about how she shouldn’t have said that (that she thought he was the one) and she thinks she caused unnecessary tension.
She tells Gosling that they need to take a step back.
And y’all.
Everybody is melting down.
Including ME.
Because WE STILL HAVEN’T HAD THE ROSE CEREMONY!
And then Harrison appears!
HARRISON! HELP! GET THIS TRAIN BACK ON THE TRACKS!
Kentucky Joe, Jared, and Nick already had roses.
The following guys are also staying:
Peter Brady, Cupcake, and then the final name she calls: Gosling.
Who goes home?
Ben Z.
Tanner
And let the record show, Ben Z. who admitted to Kaitlyn early on that he had never cried, still hasn’t.
His lip quivered a tiny bit, but there were no tears.
I’ll bet you $10,000 he’s never watched Marley and Me.
The next morning, all of the remaining guys walk out to a bus, but Jared gets to hop in the car with Kaitlyn for the drive.
ROAD TRIP!
She has a bit of difficulty driving and keeps hitting the curb.
You know, driving a car is a little bit like a relationship….
Katilyn and Jared kiss the Blarney stone and then arrive at a castle.
Kaitlyn says “It’s not a legit road trip unless you end it with a cocktail“.
Huh.
In my world, it’s not a legit road trip unless you eat corn nuts and pork rinds.
#thanksforthatdad
😉
Harrison shows up to talk to Kaitlyn .
And she FINALLY admits that she regrets what happened with Nick.
And then Harrison pretty much says EXACTLY what I’ve been saying all along:
that how she responds to her mistake is what shows her character.
Kaitlyn doesn’t appear to understand what he is saying.
Like she literally doesn’t understand his words.
She’s too busy planning when she’s going to shave her legs because she was basically being given the go-ahead by Harrison to “be intimate” with more guys.
#ANDICAN’TEVEN
So here’s what happened: Harrison pitched a new idea to her.
What about if she eliminates 3 guys, and then the remaining 3 guys get OFF CAMERA time before hometown dates. She’s ALL OVER IT.
Yep, that’s when she started deciding when to shave her legs.
1:1 DATE
Who: Cupcake
What it says: Let’s take our love to the edge.
Kaitlyn heads out to her date with Cupcake with a high pony and buffalo plaid scarf.
THIS I can get on board with.
They go on a helicopter ride and then have a picnic on a beautiful cliff.
They have small talk….really small…..like teeny tiny talk….and things are not going well.
Cupcake immediately senses that things are going south.
Kaitlyn breaks down and starts bawling.
She tells him that he has everything that she’s looking for, but that basically he’s not the one.
He is so sweet and tells her she’s just scared, but not in a controlling way, in a really sweet way.
They stand up, he kisses her on the forehead, and then she hauls hiney out of there.
He ends up sobbing into his scarf and talking to himself in the 3rd person.
Oh, Cupcake.
Chin up.
You’re going to have tons of ladies knocking on your door after this.
Yep, lots of ladies are making dentist appointments as we speak.
AND scene.
That’s it for today.
Can y’all even????????
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LAST THING! I have a BACK IN STOCK collage for y’all that I put on facebook on Tuesday morning!
Three things in this collage were previously sold out (the Happy Camper tee, these Thompson Tomboy jeans from Vigoss, and my BP summer wedges)!
Well, they are now all BACK IN STOCK!
I put together this cute outfit collage and thought you all might want to check it out.
I also included the Levi’s cut-offs, because they are 40% OFF.
OKAY…DISCLAIMER ON THE WEDGES.
It looks as if they are available for order…but they are backordered until DECEMBER!
DANG YOU NORDSTROM!
I mean, I realllllllllly love these wedges and highly recommend them (would have named them a MUST HAVE when I found them if they hadn’t immediately sold out), but who the heck wants to wait until December to get a pair of wedges?
#nobody,that’swho
Oh well….still a cute outfit collage for y’all (with everything in stock but the wedges). 🙂
happy camper tee HERE / thompson tomboy HERE / levis cut-offs 40% OFF HERE
$8 earrings HERE / tassel necklace HERE / my BP wedges HERE
Make sure y’all come back on Friday! I haven’t decided for sure yet, but I think it’s going to be a Pinterest Told Me To recreation with some pattern mixing going on!
xoxo,
Sheaffer 🙂
Mix and Match Mama says
Bahahaha! I can't even Sheaffer…I can't even :). The leg shaving part had me laughing out loud ;)!
Erika Slaughter says
We didn't have tv (or water but that doesn't really affect my tv watching) on Monday night so I've been looking forward to this recap!!! I can't even!!!!
adrienne says
Sheaffer, do you know if Loft does price adjustments? My on sale at $50 denim vest that I just received is $26 today! ?. Thanks! Can't wait to shop Nordstrom's sale with you!
Sheaffer says
Hi Adrienne! I think they will do a price adjustment within 10 days. xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Emily Morris says
Adrienne, #ican'teven when that happens to me. Yay for loft. Sheaffer, your recap is as good as ever!
Sarah Kuykendall says
I live for these recaps! So amazing! Thank you!
Liz F. says
Love the recap! I'll admit that I zoned out during Cupcake's date as I was in a buffalo plaid daydream. I absolutely need to get a buffalo plaid scarf 🙂
Kristen says
Great recap! Thanks for the laugh!!
Ashley T says
#ican'teven!!!! Too funny! My girlfriends and i were texting yesterday about putting all the back in stock collage items in our nordstroms cart. And how we will be in divorce court soon because of all our shopping thanks to you! We love you!!
southernlyme says
I have been looking forward to this recap and you nailed it again! Strangely, I felt the need to puke several times just watching the train wreck. #ican'even
Narci says
Lol. Corn nuts and pork rinds?? Hahahaha!! 😉
dresselfamily.blogspot.com says
best re caps ever!!!!
Paula says
#ICan'tEven…..craziest show yet! CRAZY!
Lori says
You nailed the show, #ican'teven. PP and J sandwiches on our road trips. Five kids, one station wagon and there was no stopping at a restaurant money.. if you know what I mean. The worst part, my brother playing his guitar in the way back seat that faced out the back window. #ican'teven
Domestic Engineer says
Sheaffer, I Cant Even! I almost spit out my coffee laughing when I read your comments about Kaitlin plotting when she was going to shave her legs to prep for private time and the "wiggle dance."
Anonymous says
Sheaffer- what size did you get in that blue T? it looks waaaay oversized on the nordstrom models, and you can see the backside even from the frontside. In your pics I cant see the back part. Did you tuck yours in? Do you think this T would be acceptable to wear with the must have leggings? Enough coverage ?! 🙂 Thank you!
Sheaffer says
Hi! It's an x-small. I half-tuck it in the front and it does hang down quite a bit in the back. It might work with leggings, depending on how tall you are (and how long or short waisted you are). Sorry I'm not more help! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Allyson says
Love these recaps! I don't watch the show, but love reading these.
Haley Southey says
Wowowow. Love these updates. This is the first season I've never watched. Kaitlyn just wasn't my favorite and I didn't feel attached to any of the guys to continue watching. But your updates are hilarious and awesome and sum everything up perfectly. I. can't. even. 🙂
Lisa Rockwell says
aaaaand why did they leave Cupcake on a CLIFF when she just dumped him on tv?! Poor guy…#ican'teven 😉
Rebecca Jo says
This has been the biggest train wreck Bachelorette ever… Harrison has lost ALL control.
Melanie Lien says
Yes and yes.
Barbara says
"Okay. Now it's getting serious. He could start losing muscle mass."
I about spit out my coffee! I love your posts – especially these Bachelor/Bachelorette ones! Thank you for ALWAYS giving me some great laughs to start my morning off right 🙂
Barbara says
Oh, and can you tell me about how you found the sizing to be in the Happy Camper tee and Tomboy jeans? I like a drapey fit for a tee and I've never bought Vigoss before so I'd love your input. Thank you!
Sheaffer says
Hi Barbara! I found the sizing on the tee to be true to size. I got a small, and it is fitted, but not tight. If you want it drapey, you might consider sizing up? My Vigoss sizing is all over the map. I wear a 27 in these particular jeans, so I would say they are true to size. Hope this helps! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Barbara says
That's a lot of help – thank you!!!
Jenny Morgan says
Honestly—the best part of my Wednesday is reading your recap!!! And funny enough, I totally was thinking I needed to get my teeth cleaned after Kaitlyn left poor blubbering Cupcake on the edge of the cliff—which by the way, I did get a bit nervous thinking he might fling himself off. Believe me Cupcake, no girl is worth it! I was kind of shocked about Ben Z—I really liked him!
midwestmom says
#ICANTEVEN I've never yelled at the tv more than during this show. And covered my eyes and cringed and I Can't Even!! I'll admit I fell hard for Shawn at first, but his needy-ness it not a good look. Please FOR THE LOVE Stop calling him Gosling now, because no, just no, I Can't Even! He's lost Gosling status. And those socks!
I felt so bad for JJ, he was likeable for about 5 min and then she just cuts him! OUCH and POOR POOR Cupcake didn't see that coming. He was so excited and she was so heartless. OUCH. I'm dying over the face that they are basically giving Kaitlyn thr opportunity to sleep with all of the guys since she's for sure slept with Nick and most likely Shawn too. Honestly these guys gotta be so glad they were cut when they watch this back.
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Lindsay Otis says
OMG yes! Thank you for pointing out that Kaitlyn and ABC made a bigger deal of the words than the act! #ICANTEVEN is right girl! Preach some truth!
DIYbyDesign says
Wait Shaeffer – you totally didn't talk about the fact that Cupcake looked like he was going to jump and if you watch the scene the producer or whoever that was that works for the show literally looks like she is going to have to step in to stop him from jumping. She even motions forward at one point. Re-watch that part if you get a second – its totally cray cray. Great recap as usual!!
Anonymous says
What is with Katilyn's tongue? We know it is usually in the back of Nick's throat but seriously she is constantly showing her tongue in photos, why?
Julie Clark says
#icanteven!! I got to watch it with my daughter-in-law and son while visiting. So much fun!! Totally busted up reading the whole part about Gosling losing muscle mass!! LOVE your recaps!!!
Can't wait to shop the Anniversary sale with you!
Katie at Better Off Benedict says
I can't even is exactly how I'm feeling about this right now. Thanks for the hilarious recaps. I'm reading it while waiting for a meeting and I keep cracking up and the receptionist probs thinks I'm nuts.
KerriM says
Oh my! This was one of your BEST RECAPS EVER! I laughed out loud (at my work desk) so many times, but especially for the "I bet $1,000 he's never watched Marley and Me" and the "corn nuts and pork rinds" bit. I find myself coming up with hashtags for you every time I read one of your recaps, and this week, I kept thinking #amiright, because you hit the nail on the head on everything! You're the best! #amiright
Cheryl says
Hi Sheaffer! I LOVE your blog and it has been a daily read for me since I found it a few months ago! I just had to share this with you… everytime I see Kentucky Joe on screen, all I see is Wreck-It Ralph (thanks to my two kiddos that watch it all.the.time.)! Is it just me or do you see the similarity too? I think it's the hair. Anyway, love your blog! You're hilarious.
Erin Ressler says
Seriously, #ICANTEVEN take your recaps. SO flippin' hilarious. This is seriously one of your best ones, ever! I was rolling (at my desk) today! I open all my new posts at the beginning of day and read them when I need a break. I saved yours for last because I knew it was just what I needed to get through the afternoon. But seriously, #ICANTEVEN
Sabrina says
#ican'teven with this season. Clearly he hasn't seen Marley and Me. #getsyoueverytime
I literally laughed SO hard at this recap. You make dramatic TV so fun!
Staci says
These recaps are the highlight of my Wednesday every week. My boyfriend [miraculously] watches the show with me and I have him read these, too. He cracks up. Thank you for the laughs!!!!!!!!
The Rohman Family says
Ok. Break from Bachelorette. Important question: If I sign up for the Nordstrom card TODAY will I have it in time to shop the early anniv sale for cardholders?1?
Sheaffer says
Hey there! I'm 99% sure the answer to that is YES!!!! Get it! Now!!!!!
xoxo,
Sheaffer 🙂
JenA says
Ben Z. as the next Bachelor?? I was honestly shocked that she let him go. They seemed to have a better connection than she has with some other guys. Love your recaps!
P.S. I didn't know you went to OU. Boomer Sooner!! 🙂
Alison says
I can't believe she was not owning the wiggle dance. She was projecting her guilt of Nick onto Gosling. I wanted to strangle her. I can't even imagine how next week will be when she tells the guys. Cup cake nailed it when he said she doesn't know what she wants. I still love Gosling even though he annoyed me with his neediness.
Kathryn says
I know this was from previous episodes…but has anyone else noticed that she is deathly afraid of birds, but has two tattooed on the back of her arms????
Janice DeMarti says
Ok, it's hard to regain focus after your, "the big ol' wiggle!" That reference is a first for me and I'm in love!
Thanks for the early morning laughs,
Janice
@1islandloverteacher 🙂
Dena says
I am so with you on "I Can't Even!" LOL
Anonymous says
But I don't think she's saying she doesn't regret it at all. I take it that she's choosing her words carefully. "Should she feel shame and regret for having sex with someone" – her answer is no. "Does she regret the timing and circumstance" – yes. Society doesn't push guys to "admit Shane admit remorse admit admit" post sex – usually they just blame the woman and say she should feel shamed. Exhibit A: Clare and Juan Pabs. That said, this episode drove me crazy.
Alecia Mariana says
Lol, this whole season is a #icanteven moment. But, I have to admit I can't stop watching it haha.
xx,
La Joie de Vivre
Charlotte says
I love your recaps and I don't watch the shows! I have to ask, are you watching UnReal on Lifetime? It's been my guilty pleasure show this summer and I always think of you and your recaps when I watch a new episode.
Sheaffer says
I haven't even heard of it Charlotte! I'm going to have to check it out! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Anonymous says
I know this was not on topic today, though I have a question. What time of the year are Hunter Wellies offered at a sale price? Thanks
Sheaffer says
Hi there! I'm sad to report that I think the sale prices on Wellies are just totally random. I promise to highlight them when I do see them on sale! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Stefany says
Was anyone else worried that Cupcake was going to jump off the cliff? It looked at one point that a producer or camerawoman was on standby in case he did!
Melanie Lien says
Can we start a petition to have proper rose ceremony placement reinstated?
{Hi Sugarplum!} says
Okay, I haven't actually seen this girl on camera for a single minute, but is she 18?! seriously, based on your hilarious, better-than-the-show recaps, she just seems so dang immature…def not ín it for the right reasons. And side note, remind me not to ever road trip in an enclosed car with you. 😉 #asyouwere
SarahM says
I know the necklace is sold out but where is it from?