It’s Wednesday! Which means it’s Bachelorette Day! If you want to catch up on previous recaps, click HERE. Last week, this guy was kicked off….but I wasn’t mad about it. I MEAN, WHO WAS HE ANYWAY?
Before we get started on this week’s recap, I have a couple of housekeeping things to mention:
1) The blog was down for several hours on Monday night, so I’m going to leave the Special Mama nominations open until Wednesday night at 9:00 p.m. Go enter yourself or another deserving mama HERE by leaving a comment at the end of the post. I will announce the winner on facebook on Thursday morning, and that mom will meet me at Nordstrom’s Northpark on Monday, July 24th to go on a $1,000 shopping spree at the Nordstrom Anniversary Sale!!!!
Reading through the nominations is absolutely heartwarming. So many mammas out there that are fighting for and loving their babies so fiercely are such an inspiration to their friends and family.
And remember, you can nominate yourself! Heaven knows all of you mamas deserve the world!
2) I’ve had a lot of people have asked me to name my Top 3 picks of the Anniversary Sale. (Click HERE if you haven’t seen my posts yet,…but remember, you can only shop the sale right now if you are a Nordstrom cardholder. It will be open to everybody on this Friday, July 21st!)
So what are my top 3 picks that I think everybody NEEDS? That’s easy. They are items that you will wear every single dang day. THIS (or THIS)…THIS….and THESE. If you read this blog on the regular, then you already know what the items are. Because y’all are my people. And we are all united in comfort. 😉
Friday I will round up lots of my clothing and shoe faves, and I will have them put together in head to toe outfits for you. I will also be highlighting THIS pair of boot cut jeans. Y’ALL. They are freaking amazing. I swear I look 3 inches taller and 10 pounds lighter. And I’ll prove it to you on Friday.
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So today is HOMETOWNS!!!! And historically, HOMETOWN DATES have been some of my very favorites because of the family dynamics we get to see. I’m looking at you Fletcher brothers.
First up was Eric in Baltimore, Maryland. Now, I can’t say I’ve been rooting for Eric this season, but in the first couple of seconds of them seeing each other, I all of a sudden found that he was endearing himself to me. He was dancing when he saw her (cute!), they cuddled on a bench looking very comfortable with each other, and he quickly explained to her that he was going to show her where he grew up….which was not picture perfect.
Eric, before we go any further, I feel like I have a very important message to share with you right now. SCRUFFY WORKS. #youROCKscruffy #nevershave
They headed to his neighborhood basketball court to shoot some hoops, and then Eric’s “A-1” showed up. And I could be wrong, but I don’t think he was calling this guy “steak sauce”. I think that means he is one of his besties. And y’all, it was such a real and sweet moment. His friend was so proud of him and was telling Rachel all about how Eric rose above the neighborhood. And Eric was BEAMING. He was so proud of Rachel, and he was so touched by what his friend was saying about him. I’m telling you, it was a really great moment. And look at Rachel! It was just incredibly sweet.
After shooting some hoops, they headed to his aunt’s house. And the very second they opened the door and I laid eyes on Eric’s family, I wanted to be sitting on the couch with them. Like sandwiched right in between Aunt Verna and Cousin FUN! They were so warm and accepting, and they just looked like a blast to be around. And you could tell that they love Eric to pieces. They ribbed him a bit for his appearance on After The Final Rose (when he first met Rachel and danced). But it was good natured ribbing and cute.
And I have to say, I respect the fact that Cousin Fun was on her A game. She brought out the sequins, the hot pink leggings, and the updo. #slaygirlslay
Tell me she wouldn’t be a blast to drink a margarita with. Or hit up a club with. We would GET DOWN to some JT. I just know it.
Rachel sat down with Aunt Verna. And I think I’m going to start campaigning for her to be the next Bachelorette. Because I ADORED her. They had a very real conversation about race that was so refreshing. Verna kept it real.
Eric sat down with his mom. And again. NOTHING BUT LOVE FOR ERIC. He was so sweet to her, and my goodness I love a boy who loves his mama. I did however question the reasoning that mama gave for not being super involved during his childhood (basically said it was for his own good and she did it on purpose so he could be a strong man)…WHATEVER. I would have thought that Aunt Verna would have set Mama straight.
Eric talked with his dad. The dad apologized for some of the things he had to go through as a child, and Eric seemed to accept that apology. Eric said, “If love is the first thing I get out of this, then so be it.” I was impressed with his perspective.
At the end of their visit, they all sat down together around the table, and Eric gave a lovely little speech thanking everybody for their part in his life and how they all helped make him who he is today. He said, “I’ve been running from love my whole life… I’m not running anymore.” YOU GO, ERIC. Some people might have thought that this date was boring. But I’m not one of those people. I loved every second of it.
He walked her out, and said “I’ve never been happy like this. And for the first time today it came to me, and I was like Damn, I really love this girl.” Y’ALL! Cue the ooohs and ahhhhhs. He continued with “It was like I started thinking this week like I that I really care about you, like a lot. Like I care about your well being, I care about what you’re doing, I care about what you do in life, and I care about why you are.” Eric’s words were heartfelt and sincere. He was so smooth, but in a very believable and super charming way. #TEAMERIC #untilpetersdateanyway
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Next up was Bryan in Miami, Florida. In the words of the great Will Smith, “Party in the city where the heat is on, All night on the beach till the break of dawn. Welcome to Miami. Bienvenidos a Miami.”
Bryan welcomed her in Spanish, which was cute. 1 point for Bryan. However, he was wearing some type of tapered pant which appeared to have a wide elastic band in the hem?!? So I had to take his talking in Spanish point away, because I just can’t get behind a tapered leg like that. We were reminded that Bryan’s last serious relationship ended in part because of Bryan’s mother. And at that time I realized I was wayyyyyyyy over eager to meet mommy. And I’m guessing he still calls her Mommy. #justahunch
Bryan and Rachel played some Dominos in Domino Park with a couple of old guys, did a little salsa dancing in a little club right off the main strip, and then they headed to meet the family.
So this is Mommy. I like how she was mixing the orange, red, and pink together. Our very 1st moment together, I liked her. I mean, she was wearing this Kate Spade tassel necklace, so I automatically felt some sort of kinship towards her. #iheartkatetoo
But in the 2nd moment, she tearfully toasted (out of the smallest champagne glass on the planet and with the longest sip I have ever witnessed in my life), “Welcome to our home. For the most precious thing I have in my life.” And already, the love she had for her son seemed more than a little over the top. And I found myself wondering, was the girl in blue her daughter? If so, I’m sure she has felt woefully inferior compared to her beloved Bryan her entire life. (If I missed who this girl is, please leave her identity in the comments.)
Rachel sat down with Mommy. And Mommy continued to declare her deep and abiding love for her son. She said, “That’s my life. He’s my love. He’s my pride. We really have such a wonderful relationship, that for me..a woman that separate him from me…that would be terrible.” #WHOAH #THATS HEAVY
Hey, Mommy Dearest. We get it. You love your kid.
I feel like I’m going to feel THE EXACT SAME WAY when Carter starts talking marriage, but I plan on reigning in the crazy just a bit. Still, I felt like giving her a pass because her make-up and hair color were ON POINT.
She warned Rachel quite seriously that she would be marrying the family if she married her beloved Bryan. She was like a mob boss, because she said, and this is a direct quote….“If he’s happy, I’m happy. If not, I’ll kill you.” It took Rachel just a beat to realize she was kidding. They both laughed afterwards, but to be honest, in the moment I wasn’t so sure she was kidding. #MOMMYWASINTENSE
Luckily, she ended on a high note by giving Rachel her blessing. In the middle of the nervous giggles, I did feel the urge to put out an APB on Bryan’s ex-girlfriend. You know, just in case.
Then Rachel sat down with this girl. Again, I’m not sure who she is, but I do know that she’s wearing my earrings, so I liked her. I did not however like how she said the word “threatened” without the middle “t”. She said it “threh-hennned.” Which bugs. That’s right up there with “libary” and “supposably”. But again, hair and make-up were FAB.
Bryan sat down with his mommy, told her he really likes Rachel, and she didn’t chain him to the coffee table. So I felt like that was a win.
They left the house, and Bryan told Rachel he loved her. And then he just about sucked her face right off her neck.
I’d be lying if I didn’t say that I was disappointed a bit with this date. I realllllllllllllllly wanted Gloria Estafan to pop out and put on a private concert. #turnthebeataround #therythymisgonnagetyou #1234comeonbabysayyouloveme
I could go on and on. #567times #891011imjustgonnakeeponcounting #untilyouaremine
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Next it was time to meet Peter in his hometown of Madison, WI. Peter has been a fan favorite for awhile now, but the one word I would use to describe his hometown date is “eh” (shrug and tilt).
They made out for a bit upon seeing each other, and then they headed to a bar where they met some of his friends. Peter told the cameras that he viewed his friends as an extension of his family, and both couples that showed up were interacial (what a coinkydink). They did make a joke about him “playing the black card” which was funny, but I was hoping they would tell some stories about Peter. I wanted to get to know more about him. I want to see a silly side!
Next they headed to Peter’s parents house. When his niece lept into his lap, Rachel’s ovaries started quivering and just about exploded with joy.
Rachel sat down with the sister and the mom, and she asked both of them if they thought Peter was ready for marriage and kids. The sister basically said “yes”, but the mom wasn’t so sure. She explained that she thought he would “be ready for a commitment”, but she wasn’t sure about a marriage. Yet.
I was left wondering if Peter’s mom goes to the same hair salon as Nick’s mom?
I loved Rachel’s look on this date (although I had difficulty grabbing a good picture of it). She was wearing a blush moto jacket very similar to THIS one (that is included in the Anniversary Sale).
Again,the date was just “eh” for me.
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Our last stop this week was with Dean in his hometown of Aspen, Colorado. The scenery was beautiful, but I was confused by his button down, wine colored stretch joggers, and pullover hoodie.
They rode four wheelers and then sat down on a hay bale couch for a picnic and deep conversation. Dean reviewed how his mother had died when he was in high school, and his family unit had essentially completely deteriorated after that. He explained again how his dad wasn’t there for him and it was obvious that he is still very much plagued by this. Rachel challenged him to have a talk with his dad about it. Dean didn’t seem quite so willing.
So then it was time to go meet Dean’s baggage reason for therapy family. When they were walking up to the house, Dean said twice how he wasn’t nervous, he was “terrified“. And my mama instinct kicked in again. I just wanted to scoop him up, rock him, lovingly stroke his hair, and assure him that everything was going to be okay. And I was feeling ragey towards ABC for exploiting his situation like this! SHAME ON YOU, ABC.
So this is Dean’s dad, who now goes by the self-appointed name Paramroop. #okaythen When Dean told us last week that his dad was “eccentric”, he wasn’t kidding.
Immediately upon entering the house, Dean was extremely uncomfortable with the fact that they didn’t have any furniture. He was all “Hey, pops! Where’s the coffee table?”
Paramroop then asked everybody to lay down so he could play the gong for them. They did, but Dean looked like he was having to force himself not to cry. Or puke.
After the gong concert, things went from bad to worse reallllly quickly. Everything was awkward. Including the fact that Dean politely declined the freshly prepared mung beans that his dad had made special for his guests.
I don’t want to recap the rest, because honestly, it was just extremely heartbreaking and not at all funny. Sweet Dean just needs a family.
Okay, time for the rose ceremony.
I’m pretty much SPENT right now, so let’s just get to it. She sent Dean home.
Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo! Seriously, this boy just needs his mama.
Okay, that’s it. Sound off in the comments with who you think she should choose. My feelings changed this week, and right now I’m ALL ERIC, ALL THE WAY.
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Erika Slaughter says
Poor Dean!!! According to your recaps, I’m hoping for Eric or Peter!
Shay Shull says
Whoa! What a wide variety of hometown dates she had!
Narci says
Oh, I didn’t watch this week, but Eric’s family is adorable. So cute and so fun!!! And, I am just so mad for Dean. How heartbreaking!
Chris says
OK, I have not yet watched this week’s episode and, in addition, last week’s is still sitting on my DVR. I need to catch up. BUT, the fact that when you mentioned Bryan for the hometown date and didn’t have a picture of him and I had NO idea who he was, is not a good sign. As I’m typing this, it is occurring to me that he is the chiropractor that she is always making out with. So, I’m remembering now. But it wasn’t in my head throughout reading the WHOLE post. It just speaks to how weak this season is as a whole. I think it is the weakest ever. I like Rachel a lot but the men this year are really boring…..
Beth says
Team Peter! I hope he gets his feelings together! There’s no way federal judge Daddy is going to let Rachel bring Eric home. I don’t see that going over well. And she needs to RUN RUN RUN from Mommy’s boy! I can attest that when a Mom loves her son that much, she won’t ever let go….ever. Rachel will always be seen as competition. Not that I have any experience with that. 😉
kellie s says
I agree about the run run run from the mommy’s boy! I’ve been dealing with an over possessive mother for 2 years of dating and 2 years of marriage, and it’s probably our most common disagreement! If he hasn’t made healthy boundaries with him mom yet, it’s going to be really hard to do it now at 37!
Melissa says
Couldn’t agree more!!! Run now.
Kate says
Agreed – she needs to get out of that! It will ruin her relationship with Bryan clearly, because he is obviously going to side with his mama! That’s the reason why they broke up before – RED FLAG Rachel… and she was all “I just want his mom to like me” – it won’t make any difference if she does or doesn’t, you’re a threat and she made that quite clear. Get out Rachel.
Becky Simpson says
I like Peter and Eric. Not Bryan. I think Dean has a chance at next Bachelor. Top 4, looking for love, the family story. Rachel said she loved him and then he was sent home.
Cathy Doescher says
My sister and I text each other throughout the episodes each week.,.so funny! I shared all of your opinions this week I went from Team Peter to Team Eric. I really like Dean but he is too young for Rachel and would benefit from a year or two of good counseling. Can’t wait for next week!
Gail Walls says
I love the the way you handled Dean’s hometown. It says a lot about your kindness and sensitivity. On another note, your recaps are a hoot. It’s fun to start my day smiling.
Tiffany says
I couldn’t agree more! 🙂
Michelle says
Agree, as well!!! 🙂
Jenna says
I loved Eric after hometowns. I’m totally on team Eric. However, I think she’s going to choose Bryan which in my mind is a disappointment.
Lee says
Awesome recap! I watched the whole thing….hoping Dean’s parting gift from ABC is a couple of years with a great therapist. I’m SO ANGRY with ABC for airing that family conversation between Dean and his dad. So much hurt and so sad to watch two not knowing what to do with their severe grief…..shame shame shame on you ABC.
Tracy B says
The date with Dean’s family was so unbelievably heartbreaking to me that I had to describe it to my husband (who doesn’t watch the show and couldn’t care less) just because I needed to talk it out. I pray for that young man. I felt bad for him when she sent him home and his reaction in the limo was telling. He really needs a counselor! I agree with the one commenter who says that this season is boring. We need more meaningful conversations so we can really get to know the guys and be about to root for them. If that means extending the season by a couple of weeks, I’m game! I think most people go onto this franchise for the right reason of finding love, so come on ABC! Let’s give them the best chance at survival!
Sarah says
PETER!!!!! He is by far the most mature, self-aware and genuine of the bunch. I foresee her choosing Bryan, but I think he is so fake, AND those mom issues WILL come back to bite Rachel. Eric just sounds so uneducated and I think he has a dark side. Oh poor dean. I hope he gets counseling at some point.
At least when/if she chooses Bryan, Peter will be the next bachelor!
Kim Nations says
Good recap. I agree that she should let Bryan go.. There will always be competition between Mom and Daughterinlaw. I have been there.. You’ll never win. Eric is great and I loved his family. I felt so sorry for Dean. I could not believe that ABC aired this.. I was so hurt for him.. 🙁 Not a fan of Peter..
Lolo says
I’m not sure who that girl was, but Bryan mentioned being an only child during that last episode…
Gina says
Loved Eric and his family! Eric was so sweet and sincere! That was by far the best hometown date and I love Rachel so natural and not so made up with those false eyelashes! Peter’s hometown was just boring. Bryan’s mom was a bit much. Feel like she would have taken the whole bottle of wine like JoJos mom if it was within reach. Did you see when Bryan and Rachel were dancing ???? they head butted each other?…ouch! Believe the girl in blue was a cousin…..thought Bryan said he was an only child. Dean’s home visit was so awkward…..why would the show force that on Dean family when they’ve be estranged for so long? Haven’t been under one roof in over 8 years, Dean hasn’t spoken with “Paramroop” for 2 years! Poor Dean…..I really like him but do feel he’s a bit young for Rachel. His pants were the worst. Really thought she keep Dean and let Peter go this week since he’s not ready for marriage. Dean should be the next Batchelor or Bryan. Really hoping Rachel picks Eric!
Keely says
Dean’s pants were bad the whole season!
sydnee says
Love your screenshots, and especially the comments! lol
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heidi says
Dean and Peter were my final 2 picks.
Put of every seasons home town dates Deans was the most heart wrenching I’ve ever seen. My heart literally ached for him.
Amy says
I have been #teameric all the way! They’re perfect for each other!!! And #teamdeanforthenextbachelor Because he needs it.
Kat says
In reference to Peter’s interaction with his niece, my friend once coined the word “explovaries”. Yes. Full blown explovaries. #peterforbachelor
Laci says
Sheaffer you are one of my people! The fact you didn’t make light and fun of Dean’s hometown visit makes my heart smile. That poor child needs therapy and a good woman that will one day show him love. I can’ t decide who she will keep as I am not invested in any of them?? I feel like I don’t know them?? If Peter were on her level of feelings I think she would pick him.
Susan Jeffries says
OK totally heart broken for Dean. My husband was in a similar boat with the family situation. I appreciate the respect you gave him. I love to laugh at your recaps too! Thanks for making this respectful. And Dean is a total babe. (:
Connie Appelt says
TeamPeter. Although Eric is precious. Either would be husband material for sure. I absolutely love Dean, and as stated in other comments I am praying for him. His father is truly selfish for not being their for his kids when they lost their mom. I have had several friends loss a spouse at young ages and NEVER have a witnessed such disgusting behavior. Dean needs a solid Christ loving spouse who will point him to the one true father. Now onto Brian, first of all…she will grow out of all that slobber SOON. It’s really gross to even watch. And his mom is #craycray even if she dresses nice and has a hairstylist and makeup artist on speed dial, can’t cover crazy. Rachel better run for the hills, preferably the ones in Wisconsin or Maryland.
Julie says
When Bryan’s mom said he was” the love of her life”, I was thinking, um, shouldn’t that be your husband, not your son. Run, Rachel, run!!
Melissa says
Exactly! I’ve never understood why someone would call their child “the love of my life”!
Kayla B says
Eric really won me over on this date, too! Peter is still my fave, but mostly cause I think he’s just too handsome to pass up. I also live in Madison, WI, so gotta support my homeboy! But if it’s not Peter, I really hope it’s Eric. I totally agree about Dean’s date being exploitive. I don’t think it did anything to help his situation. My heart was breaking for him throughout the whole episode.
Mona says
Thanks for your great recap! I am #TeamRachel. I love to see her happy. She seems her happiest when she is with Bryan and Eric. Those two hometown dates were the best to me. She wants an assertive man who is affectionate and really loves her for her. Her best bet is with Eric or Bryan. Personally, I love Bryan with Rachel. I was at first thinking it was Peter but when I reviewed the episodes
I started looking for the relationship that most reminded me of her and Nick. Nick talked about having had the most explosive chemistry with Rachel. When you look at it from that way, her chemistry with Bryan is the most explosive. I think Bryan’s mom will be fine as long as she is not feeling like she is losing her son. You can tell he knows how to deal with her. For example, when she came charging at him to greet him, he made her hug both him and Rachel – group hug, both hug,. Then he told Rachel about her ways prior so that they had a private chuckle about her antics during the drink. Rachel said as long as you’re with me. Basically, lets stand together. And he did. I think they make a great team and will be ok. I want to see her in love and get married just like I wanted to see Sean get his happy ever after.
Dean said the whole process was cathartic for him and that he and his siblings have grown closer since. I pray for his healing and want the best for him. Seems like a great guy. But that was so sad! Thanks again for your recaps, I look forward to reading! Ps. Can I enter a person for the special Mama giveway who isn’t in Texas?
Cassandra Adrian says
After that episode I am less concerned with Rachel’s love life and want happiness for Dean. Let’s find him a family. Although I’m younger than Rachel, my momma heart agreed with you. Can I adopt him? Forget finding love, let’s find people families!
Gail says
I completely agree!! I told my daughter that I’m going to adopt Dean…he really needs a therapist and a family. I do believe that he will make a wonderful husband and father one day because of what he has been through.
Gail says
Top notch recap this week!! I am team Eric as well. Hoping Dean is the next Bachelor; he truly deserves it.
What is with the silent ‘T’s? That bugs me to no end! When someone pronounces ‘button’ like ‘buh-in’, I want to rip my ears off!!
Quick question on the boot cuts; do you wear a petite or a regular? I’m 5’3″. I’d like to get them before the world gets access. #selfishthatway
Sheaffer says
Hi, Gail! I’m almost 5’4″, and I wear the regular 4s with tall wedges or boots! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Rebecca says
Thank you for your sensitive recap of Dean’s hometown date. I too am so disappointed in ABC and in The Bachelor for exploiting that family situation. I’m pretty much #teamdontcare now after that episode. That was too much.
Jill says
I read your recaps religiously each week and LOVE them. Thank you for treatment of Dean’s sad situation. I wish ABC (and by ABC, I mean the Bachelorette producers) would have handled it in the same classy manner. That poor kid was already hurting and to reunite with his family after 8 years on national TV and to exploit it all in the promos was heartless and unnecessary. Sending him home at the end was just plain hard to watch. Hoping he might be the next Bachelor. Eric is awesome, but I don’t think she will pick him. I think she’s going to pick Bryan because of the passion and the fact that he’s ready (supposedly) right now. And they got watches…haha!
Gail says
In the immortal words of Joey Tribbiani, ‘Did they go to the zoo? Supposably… 🙂
JoEllen says
I loved Eric on this episode. I still don’t think he is a match for Rachel, but he seems like a really good guy. He still has a little more growing up to do, but it is nice to see a guy trying to be a honorable man despite bad circumstances. I live near Baltimore and really respect him for his accomplishments.
Bryan I have no love for at all. I think his mother should be a huge red flag for Rachel. The fact that she has interfered with his love life before is concerning. She is fine with Rachel now, but the first time she disagrees with her I think she will turn on her #mamaisfierce
Peter, Peter, Peter! I have loved Peter the most throughout this season but he did seem like he is putting on the brakes. I think he is smart and realizes the seriousness of the situation. I think he will be the next bachelor if Rachel does not snatch him up first.
Dean. ABC crossed a line. The viewing audience is not comfortable with that raw level of reality. I appreciated the fact that you did not attempt to make light of the situation because it was so unfortunate. I don’t think there was 1 viewer who did not want to give Dean a hug after his home town. Then to be sent home after that! I really hope Dean is not the next Bachelor. Don’t get me wrong, I think he would be a good Bachelor. I just think his situation was exploited by ABC. If I were him I would be walking far, far away from the Bachelor franchise. I think future contestants should be leery of the Bachelor franchise as well.
Amy says
Great recap as usual! Loved Erics hometown. I truly believe they are setting him up to be the next Bachelor. I don’t think Peter has it in him to carry a whole season. He’s a little bland. I am just not buying what Bryan is selling. I don’t think he’s selling a lot but theres just something off about him. Deans hometown was heartbreaking but real. Not all family dynamics are rainbows and butterflies. While i do wish ABC didnt air that, Dean could have said he only wanted Rachel to meet his siblings and friends. Its been done before. My parents probably wouldn’t have wanted to be on the show if it were me and they are pretty “normal”. Anywho…kinda can’t wait until MTA!!!
Meredith D. says
I’ve liked Eric for a while now. Good to see everyone else getting on board. I think they are really sweet together…however, I’m not sure I want her to pick him?? Or maybe I do. I never understood what she saw in Dean. Am I the only one who feels like he is a bit immature or youngish for her? If I were Rachel I would pick Peter. Bryan grosses me out. Something about him seems so icky. And his mom is way too much!
I do feel really bad for poor Dean too. He definitely needs some counseling and sounds like dad does too.
I hope she picks Eric and Peter becomes the next bachelor!!!! I just don’t fee like Peter is feeling it…
Emily says
I think that woman was Bryan’s cousin because he said he was an only child. His mom is cray cray for sure. I think she chooses Bryan and I don’t think it’ll last!
I’m team Peter. I’m hoping he will be the next bachelor if he doesn’t get chosen!
I felt horrible for Dean and did not like how ABC took advantage of the situation.
Jolie says
I’m almost positive the girl at Bryan’s house was his half sister from his father’s first marriage.
And that date with Dean was so sad and hard to watch…I felt so badly for him and his family. I didn’t think it was exactly right of them to air it but I do understand that ABC has a business mentality and drama sells. Hopefully, it will prompt them to seek therapy. And i can’t help but route for Dean to find love on BIP!
None of the remaining three guys stand out to me and I have to admit that not a single one of them seems truly ready for marriage. I hope I’m wrong because I absolutely adore Rachel and hope she ends up happy.
Jenell says
All I can say is this-I had the exact same thought about the haircut. Sheaffer, you are my people.
Kristin Tate says
I 100% wanted to pick Dean up, bring him home, and cook chicken and dumplings for him.
I mean, yes he just needs his mom. Bless his heart, I can’t believe she sent him home. I’m too am pulling for Erick now, can’t wait to keep watching to see where this goes.
Audrey says
I have loved Dean since night one, but I think what he needs is a good family, support group and therapist– not a wife just yet! Thank you for being sensitive to that in your commentary which is always spot on 🙂 I definitely did a 180 on Eric this week. I think he’s a great guy but I’m not sure what her parents will think of him. She should run far away from Bryan’s family. And I think she’s too spirited for Peter. So yeah, the finale is just a bit “eh” for me. Looking forward to the announcement of the next Bachelor!
Emily says
Okay I just have to comment because I found this hysterical. When I was watching Eric’s hometown date I kept asking, “What is his A-1?”…like what does that mean? And then my friend who was watching it with me told me that he said, “Day 1” and then it made so much more sense. Ha I’m glad to think you heard the same thing. I know no hip lingo, but I do think it’s supposed to be Day 1 (meaning his best friend) haha.
Sheaffer says
I’m laughing so hard, Emily! Another reader told me this too!!!! Clearly, we’re not up on all the hip lingo, Emily! xoxo, Sheaffer 🙂
Laura says
Closed captioning read “A-1.” I heard A-1 plain as day. “A-1 since day 1” – that’s the phrase I’ve heard before.
Sheaffer says
OHHHH!Good to know! Thanks, Laura!
Angela Ellingson says
Unfortunately I can really relate to Dean’s situation. It sucks. If his dad would have just acknowledged his poor decisions, apologized for the pain he’s caused, and said from now on he was going to be there for him, it would have made all the difference in the world. And yes, ABC are just idiots. It should have been sufficient for Dean’s hometown to consist of Rachel meeting his friends since his family hadn’t all been together in 8 years. They crossed a line forcing this very sensitive situation to be aired. Anyway, I really don’t think Peter’s heart is in it. I’d place Bryan and Eric in final 2 and I find Eric to be the most sincere.
Sara says
I know the producers are manipulative but if I were Dean, I think I would have insisted that Rachel only meet my siblings. He clearly has no relationship with his dad so why make Rachel meet him? It’s not like if they ended up together, the dad would be a part of their lives. If this is supposed to be “reality” TV, his dad is not part of his life in the real world. Maybe when Dean finds the right woman and they make beautiful babies, the grandbabies will help Dean and his dad mend their relationship.
I’m not so sure Mommy was kidding with the whole death threat. I think she played it off as a joke but she was secretly very serious. If I were Rachel, I would run for the hills. You think Mommy is going to stay out of their relationship? Heck no! SERIOUS red flag.
Stacy Grant says
Your #hashtag game was strong in this one!! LOVE! LOVE! LOVE!
AmandaG says
Eric was calling his friend his ‘day one’ meaning he’s been there from day one/beginning. Friends for a long time through good and bad 🙂
I do not watch the Bachelor but I anxiously await your recaps each week! Since I don’t watch, I never remember what day they will be out. I luckily only started reading them at the very end of last season, so I have all the past seasons you’ve been doing it to enjoy them.
Sheaffer says
I’m laughing soooo hard, Amanda! REALLY? That’s hysterical that I misheard so badly!
Molly says
I don’t share the opinion that ABC exploited Dean’s situation, so it’s interesting to see how many people do feel that way. It was tough and heartbreaking to watch, but it seemed very real to me, and all involved were adults. It felt less heavily edited than most of the show, meaning the parties involved were able (in my mind) to represent themselves. I was emotionally drained afterwards for sure, but I really appreciated it as a piece of true reality tv (as opposed to “reality tv”) and I am not surprised that Dean said he’s now closer with his siblings after it. I thought it was just really powerful television, very different from the usual tone of the show but still making sense as part of it. I can see that others felt differently, so wanted to share my perspective. Thanks as always for the great recap!
Sheaffer says
I appreciate your thoughts, Molly!!!! xoxo
Malisa says
Great recap as usual! The one thing that is frustrating to me is that Rachel seems to be getting bugged that Peter might not be ready for marriage at the end of this. I know this isn’t a “normal” circumstance,” but it shows me that Peter is taking this seriously and doesn’t want to jump to engagement just because of the show. If Peter is going to commit to her, an engagement would probably be shortly down the road. And just because you get engaged on the show, doesn’t mean it will last or that a wedding will happen immediately. It sort of seems like Rachel is just chasing a ring at this point, and it would be really sad if she let Peter go because of it.
Liz says
I cried some serious tears for Dean and I really appreciated how you summed up his home town date and didn’t hash up all the details. Xo
Patty says
I laughed out loud when I clicked on the links you included for the Anniversary sale since I have purchased three of the four! The Natori bra was the only thing I didn’t buy because we have a local bra fitting store that custom tailors my bras for me! #fancy #notreally #lifesaving
Tina says
Well I totally love the A-1 not steak sauce comment! HILARIOUS!!!!!!!!!!!! I like you was very upset that ABC made Dean have the hometown. It would’ve been much better for him to be with friends rather than with the family that he hasn’t seen for 8 years. I was very sad for him and you could just see his distress not cool for a show to exploit him in this way. I’m team Peter but agree Eric’s hometown was the FUN one. 🙂
Stacey says
I haven’t watched this season but your posts crack me up! I seriously LOL every time I read them even though I don’t watch it. And thanks for getting Gloria Estefan stuck in my head! ???? #getonyourfeet
I love your blog, thank you!
Kate says
I’m team Peter all the way! He’s the only one that is genuine and takes this seriously. Bryan might be all passionate and expressive, but I don’t think he has the character and commitment to see it through! This show is so fast, so the fact that Peter struggles with the pace, especially for a guy who is cautious says it all for me. There’s a ton of pressure on these guys to get to the point where they’re going to propose so fast, and I like it when that freaks a guy out – it should. It means they take marriage seriously (as serious as you can when going on a show like this I suppose). 😉
I’m confused of why Dean even let ABC tape it all, in the past when there have been some family issues, other guys have just introduced her to friends or taken them to their current hometown versus to where they grew up. So shame on ABC, but I’m pretty sure that Dean had a say in it at some point. I wish the best for him!
Prediction: I think she’s going to pick Bryan… and I think Peter will be next Bachelor. And I don’t think it’ll last with him!
Tami says
I can’t believe Bryan’s dad didn’t get a cameo shoutout in your recap! 🙂 Mom is #cray for sure and I would run far and fast from that family, but the dad looked like he had his own share of weird going on!!
Kimberly says
My vote is for Peter. Didn’t Eric throw a little temper tantrum in the mansion when he was standing in front of all the guys stomping his foot over & over mad about something. Maybe being talked about? Or was that someone else? I can’t keep the guys straight until they get narrowed down quite a bit. But any grown man stomping his foot & carrying on seems like a red flag to me.
Andrea R says
I think Bryan’s family was actually drinking tequila and not champagne (hence the sip), because I saw limes.
As for the Kate Spade necklace, I know I can always count on you to link it to your post and save me the hunt! 🙂 Thank you thank you!
Pam Zercher says
Do *not* like Bachorettes recaps. I scroll to the end.
Social Threads wouldn’t take the coupon code. So disappointed ????
Sheaffer says
Hi, Pam! This post was from last week, so the code had expired. So sorry! 🙁